All relationships suffer issues at some point. No matter how rosy and comfortable things may seem, rocky times always crop up. How well you handle these times can be the difference between a divorce or a breakup. But even in the face of any of those, there’s still a very good chance of getting back together if you know what to do.
Research has shown that it’s easier for people to go back to their exes than try someone new because of the familiarity, and years of vested interests and emotions. So breakup or not, you can get that partner back; you just need to stay positive, and try out the following tips – that is if you feel you are meant tp be together.
YOU NEED TO SHOW STRENGTH
You don’t have to overly plead and argue with her, neither do you have to become inconsistent by agreeing with her opinion just because you think that’s what she wants to hear. You must be strong, and go about your life as normal as you can. Go about your life and start to take charge of it. You have to show her that although you miss her, your life has not come crashing. Women do not like stagnation; she will not return out of pity. If she does, it’s because she misses something; so you have a responsibility to show her something to miss.
Women are attracted to men who are strong and capable of protecting them. They’re repulsed by weak pleading. So be strong, confident, self sufficient and consistent with your opinions, as it could make all the difference.
YOU JUST KEEP TRYING
As long as your partner hasn’t entered into another relationship with some other guy, then there’s no reason to be worried. Just keep pushing, trying, and working hard towards convincing her that she’s missing something by not being with you any longer.
I am a firm believer that if someone is meant to be with you, it doesn’t matter how long it takes, they’ll surely find their way home. You must understand that certain processes take time sometimes, so learn to deal with your emotions. Don’t get argumentative, or let your emotions carry you away and make you unreasonable.
YOU MAY NEED TO SEE A RELATIONSHIP EXPERT
There are times when all you require is that neutral third party. This person can assist you both to see what the other one is feeling and needing, can help you target the troubled areas, and help you reach some meaningful resolutions.
As soon as your filters go down and the real problems manifest themselves, you’ll be able to get help from the counselor and patch things up.
This process is however subject to her willingness to agree to it.
You have to figure out the troubled spots in your relationship in order to plug them effectively.