So much emphasis has been placed on physical abuse and so little has been said about another frequent abuse that happens in many relationships — verbal abuse.
As bad as physical abuse is, verbal abuse is even terrible too; physical abuse hurts the body while verbal abuse hurts the mind and leave scars that might never heal. While men mostly engage in physical abuse, women are the ones who mete out verbal abuse.
Women sometimes see verbal abuse as a way of communication; well, it might be a way of communication but a very terrible communication, the type that leaves the heart fuming. According to Lundy Bancroft, “The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as obvious. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.”
Verbal abuse would never help your relationship in any way; it would hurt your partner terribly and would even leave dark seeds in your heart. Also, an emotionally abused man can even be pushed to mete physical abuse on his lady, though that also is another wrong.
Women aren’t also the only ones involved in verbal use, some men also lash out hard words at their lady, and such words could hurt a lady for a long time.
There is nothing like filtering the words that come out of your mouth; words are harsh, words can hurt, and words leave lasting pains and memories, and all these sum up to kill a relationship.
Save your relationship, verbal abuse kills relationships. I ended the title with ladies beware, but in retrospect, I think everyone should beware. One bee sting may not hurt a horse, but enough bee stings can kill a horse.