‘Two wrongs don’t make a right’; this statement holds a lot of weight and should continually be at the back of the mind of every person in a relationship or marriage.
If only many couples put this into practice, their marriage wouldn’t have headed towards a divorce. If only many relationship partners have put this into practice, their relationship wouldn’t have gone south. In all honesty, two wrongs would never make anything right, but how many people really believe in this statement?
A relationship / marriage shouldn’t be seen as a battleground where it’s tit for tat and a wrong is faced with another. A relationship / marriage would never be successful if you revenge every act and every mistake is never forgiven. Sometimes, it might not even be tit for tat; grudges, malice, talking bad about your partner, meting out insults, refusing to talk to your partner, refusing to perform your duties and roles, wanting your partner to apologise forever, being emotionally unavailable etc. are some other instances that would never make it right.
Punishing a wrong with another wrong is for people who don’t understand the concept of love, relationship and marriage; it’s for people who don’t value their relationship enough and it’s for people who feel it’s ignorant to have a forgiving heart.
If you ever want your relationship or especially your marriage to be successful then it’s important to hold this slogan dear to your heart — that two wrongs would never make it right. When a wrong is faced with another, it shows a lack of love, an unforgiving heart, ignorance, hard-hearted and a lack of selflessness.
You don’t only hurt your partner when you dish a wrong done to you back with another wrong; you also hurt yourself and even more, your relationship. It shows immaturity and reveals that you aren’t ready to have a successful relationship.
If anything, two wrongs would only make it worse.
Shawn