Marriage goes beyond saying “I do”; it goes beyond wearing that classy suit or fancy gown. Marriage is so much more than what you see on romantic movie scenes.
A lot of people love the idea of getting married and seriously do want to get married, but they aren’t even ready for marriage. These are some of the signs that show you aren’t ready for marriage.
1. YOU ARE COMMITMENT PHOBIC
Marriage needs strong commitment from both parties for it to work. Some people have this phobia for commitment; they are scared of commitment and hate going into committed relationships. If you have commitment issues then marriage isn’t for you, until you get hold of that fear of commitment and uphold what marriage and commitment truly means.
2. YOU ARE SELFISH
Marriage and selfishness can’t go together. If you are centred on yourself, you can’t have a successful marriage. If you think only about yourself and do things just to please yourself then you aren’t ready for marriage yet.
3. YOU ARE USING MARRIAGE AS A GETAWAY
To a lot of people, marriage is a getaway from some mishaps going on in their lives. Many see marriage as an opportunity to escape so many things going on with them; but does it ever work? I doubt it. You need to learn to stand up to those problems and overcome them rather than running away with the hope that they disappear.
4. YOU ARE HOLDING BACK A LOT
You need to enter marriage with a free mind and a loving heart. When you hold back love and other emotions, you could end up ruining your partner’s happiness.
5. YOU CAN’T MAKE HUGE SACRIFICES
Sometimes you might have to make a huge sacrifice for your spouse or your children. But if you aren’t cut out for making huge sacrifices then you might have a hard time making your marriage a success.
6. YOU HAVE NO VISION
Life shouldn’t just end at getting married or wanting to get married, there is a lot more than that. What vision do you have afterwards? How do you want your marriage to be and how committed are you to making it work?
7. YOU ARE SECRETIVE
Marriage is a no secret zone; if you are holding back secrets then you just aren’t cut out for marriage.
8. FLIRT
If you still flirt around and can’t stick to your partner, then you don’t deserve having that man/woman in your life. Marriage deserves commitment and faithfulness and you ought to be trustworthy. If you can’t keep these three alive, you aren’t ready for marriage.
9. YOU AREN’T SURE
Marriage isn’t a relationship; it isn’t something you should easily jump in and out of. If you aren’t sure of that partner or of getting married, you should probably wait till you are sure.
10. YOUR PAST
If you are bound by your past and you let it get in the way of your future, then you probably aren’t ready for marriage. You need to own up to your partner and put that past behind you before getting married.
11. YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE OTHERS ARE
If you are getting married because of pressure or because others are getting married, you need to get serious. Many people who end up marrying under pressure don’t enjoy their marriage.
12. YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO MAKE OTHERS ENVIOUS
Marriage is bigger than trying to make someone envious or jealous. It’s pure childishness if your reason for getting married is to be the centre of attraction or you do it to make people envious. Marriage is a bigger issue than that.
These 12 signs just show that you probably aren’t ready for marriage; getting married for the wrong reasons might be something you could regret later on.
Shawn