Marriage is always seen as an ultimate life achievement in a lot of climes. And for this reason, young and older intending spouses like to be extra careful in choosing who they end up with. There’s nothing absolutely wrong with being careful to choose wisely, however more often than not, being too careful can amount to losing out entirely.

While marriage is different from dating, in that the commitment levels highly differ, for me, the same rules apply in choosing a partner. You have to be careful, and ensure you get the perfect one for you. But as I have said in the first paragraph of this post, sometimes, fear of settling in the wrong thing can cause one to fall in a marital ditch.

When it comes to choosing a partner, there really is no such thing as the perfect person. This is so because no one can be perfect. We strive for perfection, but no one can ever achieve it because we are humans. For this reason, it is important that we learn to remove that ‘perfect one’ mentality from within us if we truly intend to successfully make headway in the search for a soul mate.

Sometimes, looking for a perfect person can cause you to miss out on a decent enough person because you are blinded by their little flaws in your search for an entirely perfect one. The important thing to really consider is whether or not their flaws are far outweighed by their strengths and positive sides. No one has it all, but some are far better than others in the attributes they possess.

If you find a man or woman with a bad habit, and you love them, do not run away because of that one habit if they care for you and love you, and treat you right. If you do, you may end up with someone far worse than they are.

In the search for a partner to settle with, the most important things are the ones only worth considering. Do you connect with them? Do they treat you right? Do they make you happy? Do they make you feel secure? If these boxes are ticked, you have no reason to not be with that person.

Do not let trivial things and pressure from friends and family put you into a position you probably will live to regret for the rest of your life. There’s no such thing as a perfect human. You can only get what you can. I’m not saying that you should settle for less, I’m just saying set realistic targets and expectations. If anything, the essence of being with someone is so you complement and support them in trying to be better.