Children are a blessing from God, and they add joy to a marriage. Research has found that couples feel more satisfied when they start having children, and they find joy in their children.
However, in spite of the happiness and satisfaction that children bring, many marriages suffer from a lack of romance and intimacy when they start having kids; it could even be said that the sex lives of many couples drop drastically when they start having kids.
There are practical ways you can keep the romance buzzing even when you start having kids:
1. CREATE TIME TO BE WITH EACH OTHER
When you start having kids, you’ll be surprised at how little time you tend to get for yourself every day. But the key to keeping the romance buzzing is by togetherness; make it a sacrifice to spend some of that little time you have left, with your partner.
2. MAKE YOUR KIDS A PART OF YOUR LIVES
Don’t only make your kids a part of your individual lives, but also a part of your collective life. Enjoy moments together with your kids; spend time together with them, and your romantic lives will even go higher.
3. BE KIND TO EACH OTHER
Don’t forget to keep showing each other those acts of love every day. No matter how little it is; show your partner an act of kindness and affection every day.
4. KEEP FLIRTING WITH EACH OTHER
There are so many avenues for flirting with each other, thanks to technology. Even when you are apart, you can still flirt with your spouse via email and social media. Also, you could have that secret way of flirting with your partner that only the two of you understand. Activate your flirting mode, and your romance will never die.
5. ENJOY MOMENTS TOGETHER
Don’t wait for moments to happen, because they wouldn’t — create moments. Create beautiful moments with each other (whether outdoor or indoor), and enjoy every minute of it.
6. COMMUNICATE
Communication is a key part of romance, and communication is most needed when the kids start coming. Learn to talk to each other and communicate with each other.
7. STAY-AT-HOME DATING
Time becomes more and more limited when you start having babies, but it shouldn’t stop you and your partner from going on dates.
8. BE A PARENT AND A SPOUSE
The primary reason the romantic lives of many couples suffer is because they focus on being a parent and forget about being a mum. Just as you are a mum/dad to your child every day, don’t forget to be a wife/husband to your partner every day.
If you truly want to keep the romance buzzing in your marriage even after having kids, these tips are just for you.
Shawn