Over the years, I have observed ladies who are in their thirties and how they approach life, and I have discovered that most of them are tilting towards the ‘negative’ side of life because of failed relationships, unmet desires, unfulfilled dreams, and generally a life of bad decisions. A well-known Chinese Moral and Social Philosopher, Confucius, once said “The more man meditates on good thoughts, the better he will be and the world at large”. Many ladies see life as one experience that keeps them at a point of self-denial when they really do not know exactly what they want out of it. A lot of them just carry on living life like they are the next person they so admire; thus they forget that they too can live life just like themselves, in happiness and true joy.
This is just a brief observation. All over the world, ladies particularly like to make a statement in their appearance, mannerisms and everything else, whether they are posh or local. There is something innate in them that say “You must try to look like Genevieve Nnaji or better still like Kim Kardashian”. They may not immediately say it out to themselves, but they just have to ‘do anything’ just to draw attention their way. This desire to ‘look good, or attract’ becomes very obvious when a lady is in her early, mid or late twenties; at that point, all she focuses on is how to fulfil her dreams and aspirations, this is if she has any before (of course there is no lady who wouldn’t have dreams, even if it is the wackiest dream on earth, it has to be reached). First, she will desire to be a graduate, get a well-paying job, dating the cutest guys, get married, have kids, still look good and everything thing else that she needs to keep body and soul going. These really do not bother her so much, since she’s still within the twenties circle. The Life of a lady in her twenties is quite different from the life of a lady in her thirties
Imagine if Eve were still in her twenties, she wouldn’t have bothered to eat the apple on that tree in Eden (I am guessing she was beginning to feel some sense of insecurity when the serpent started giving her ideas about her looks, and maybe even told her that she should begin to hide off some parts of her body because the stretch marks were becoming too obvious, and that may not please Adam anymore; so she decided to convince Adam by all means possible to look her way… This is just head knowledge analysis to prove a point). Many ladies in their early, mid and late thirties are like my above analysis on Eve, they may have been trying so hard to get a man’s attention, but when they finally do, insecurity begins to set in, then everything just goes wrong. Sometimes they basically try to stop their biological clock by reducing their age just to suit the man’s confidence in her because she feels that when he finds out she is well beyond the ‘perky boobs age’ he may not last another day.
Common mistakes most ladies in their thirties make:
· They allow their biological clock to ring louder in their ears whenever they are in the midst of people they are younger than
· They get very upset when someone reminds them of how ‘old’ they are (If it’s in a social environment, they may even empty their glass of wine and bitterness on you)
· They do not laugh at ‘age’ jokes (Don’t do this around them, even when they smile at it, something just sets off the detonator)
· They constantly sulk and do not want to mingle with the ‘even’ crowd; they turn out to be the odd one
· They become too desperate for a settled relationship and thereby make the wrong choices with men
· They begin to be conscious of their looks, so they tend to apply too much makeup to hide the fine lines (This is the most mistake they make that even help them look older without makeup)
· Some of them become very arrogant towards men
· They begin to create enemies for themselves around the younger girls
· Some of them even form rumour-mongering cliques and get themselves in all kinds of fight
Most ladies overcome that lying serpent
However in the midst of all these crisis they go through, there are some who would just shun all the bugs biting them and focus on how to achieve what they were not able to achieve when they were much younger (self-realization and the quest to remain positive sets them in motion for a better thirties lifestyle).
· They make sure their sanity is maximum
· They stay positive
· They mingle and attend social functions, especially weddings with an open mind
· They laugh at all kinds of jokes, even though hurt, they just push it aside and move on
· They do away with the past and focus on their new relationship, even if the past went sour
· They exercise, eat healthy foods
· They try as much as possible to accept, the younger girls and not feel jealous because life is in stages
· They also build their spiritual lifestyle
If you are a lady in her thirties, I’d suggest you read this with an open mind and get better with yourself and accept your new age instead of being bitter, cranky and wallowing in self-pity because your youngest cousin just brought home the man of her dreams and they are about to walk down the aisle soon. The past is gone, JUST LET IT GO! Move on and live a sweet life; while you are busy doing what you love to do, the man of your dreams will locate you and you too will smile just like the others you have always admired.
Thanks for reading. You can also share your views on this; let me know what you think.
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