Lol. I know, I know the headline is a little confusing. Please, permit me to clarify.
Now, as humans, we all make mistakes and errors— I agree, and I also believe it’s appropriate for one to show some remorse and apologize for their wrongs, however, I feel that everything has its limits. There are things that we just shouldn’t apologize or feel sorry for; those things that we have no control over. You know, things that come as a part of our existence as humans. Take a look at them…
1. FALLING IN LOVE
No one has any real control over who they love, anybody can be attracted to anybody— even if the person eventually turns out to be a wrong choice, we must not feel sorry for ourselves or anyone for getting involved in the first place because there was absolutely nothing we could have done to help it. It is one of those things that we cannot control. Instead, of feeling sorry, we should be happy and thankful it happened, take the positives from the experience, and move on.
2. THE PAST
I’m not saying if you did something hideous in the past, you shouldn’t apologize, especially if it hurt someone’s feelings, just don’t let it weigh you down and haunt you in the present. It happened in the past, let it stay there. Do not let people blackmail you and make your life miserable because of your past actions, especially those things you did out of youthful exuberance, and not hate/spite. Life is a learning cycle, we are meant to be bettered by the lessons from the past, not destroyed by it. Pick the positives and move on.
3. YOUR BELIEFS AND OPINIONS
As we all differ in looks and appearance, so also does our thinking differ. No one should ever have to feel sorry for the things they believe in. Because person A doesn’t believe in person B’s opinion doesn’t make their opinion null or wrong. There’s a reason it’s called a free world; as long as your beliefs and opinions do not provoke/promote violence or affects another person’s existence, hold on to it, and do not be sorry for it.
4. BEING YOURSELF
Some of us are shy, some of us are bold and confident, some of us are overly emotional, and some of us can bottle them up, and pretend like nothing is going on. Some of us are loud, and lively, some are quiet and calm. Whichever category you find yourself in, be confident in being who you are, and do not let people’s opinion of your person affect your life and happiness. You’ll find that once you’re happy with whom you are, people will accept you eventually.
5. PURSUING YOUR DREAMS AND ASPIRATIONS
We all have our strengths and weaknesses, and I believe our career choices are tailored to suit them. Everyone is good at something, not everything. Pursue only a career or that you feel you’ll thrive in. The choice of who or what to be in life is yours only to make, no one else should be allowed to do that for you. If you have dreams of being the next Bill gate or Aliko Dangote, hold onto it, and build upon it. Even if people try to discourage you or you experience challenges along your journey, and they give you the ‘I told you so’ speech, brush it all off, and keep keeping on. Do not ever feel sorry for dreaming big or wanting to be whoever it is you want to be.