I hate the saying that it’s okay for partners to argue; when you feel it’s okay to argue then you would argue with your partner. After an argument, you would feel it’s okay and then another and another and another, till arguments become a usual part of the relationship.
Yes, you may reach a point where friction would come between you and your partner, it might be normal really, but it’s not okay to have the ideology that it’s okay to argue with your partner, because it always starts with just one argument.
There are various reasons backed by research where constantly arguing with your partner would bring damage to your health.
Below are some risks that come with the territory:
1. IT INCREASES THE RISK OF DEPRESSION
Have you noticed that a lot of people who suffer from depression or who have even gone on to commit suicide as a result of depression usually have a frail relationship? Constantly arguing with your partner can make depression set in and once depression sets in that relationship, it could lead to a host of other health risks and habits which could cause damage to your health like alcohol and drug abuse.
2. HIGHER MORTALITY RISK
Arguing constantly with your partner can lead to a higher risk of premature death. A research by Danish researchers from the university of Copenhagen found that constantly arguing with a partner can increase a person’s mortality risk by two or three times. The worst part is men are even more vulnerable to this.
3. PHYSIOLOGICAL REACTION TO STRESS
Research has also found that constantly arguing with your partner has a physiological reaction to stress which can lead to high blood pressure, and an increased risk of cardiovascular diseases.
4. LOWERS THE IMMUNE SYSTEM
If you notice, after a heated argument with your partner you might tend to feel exhausted. Research has found that the reason behind this is that arguing with your partner can cause stress and when the body is stressed, it believes that there is a threat that needs to be cushioned. This goes on to affect the immune system and leaves you feeling exhausted. When your immune system is down, you can be exposed to sickness and diseases.
5. COULD LEAD TO AN INCREASE IN WEIGHT AND CHOLESTEROL LEVEL
Stress resulting from quarreling with your partner can lead to an increase in weight and cholesterol level. When people are unhappy, there is this tendency to eat anything and this can lead to a bad eating habit. When you get to stuff yourself up with junk foods and other unhealthy foods, weight and cholesterol level could become an issue.
6. CHILDREN SUFFER FROM THIS
In the case of couples with kids, this also has an adverse effect on those young children. A research team from the University of Oregon has found that parents who argue in front of their babies cause them lasting damage because they are likely to suffer from stress later in life. They described infants brain as ‘highly plastic’ and found that even if a baby is asleep, hearing arguments between parents affects the way in which they process the emotional tones of voice. As a result babies from homes with conflicts display increased stress levels. It’s disturbing to see parents arguing in front of their little children.
7. HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE
As pointed out in the third tip, high blood pressure is a physiological stress that can result from arguing with your partner. During a heated argument with your partner, your body’s blood pressure rises because your heart starts pumping blood faster. More disturbingly, your blood pressure could remain that way after a sustained series of arguments.
If these seven reasons aren’t enough to quit the frequent fights and arguments in your marriage and relationship, I wonder what will. Quarreling causes more harm than good to your relationship; talk about your relationship problems in a peaceful manner rather than raising the roofs at the slightest instance.