Before you go on and say yes, you might want to think deeply about this question. First of all, who is an Ex? Well, pretty much everyone knows the answer to this question; an Ex is someone you were in a relationship with in the past, and no longer with, and by ‘relationship’, I mean a serious affair, not the ‘friends with benefit’ kind of arrangement. I’m talking about a relationship where there’s mutual love and care shared between both persons involved. So imagine that you shared something with each other, and somewhere along the line, you both have to go your separate ways; do you honestly see yourself continuing to be good friends with your former partner? It’s easy to say yes, but when you consider the fact that most of the time, when a relationship ends, someone’s heart is broken, you may have a rethink. I mean, picture yourself being dumped by the one you love so much, would you still consider being friends with them? I don’t think so! You’d be too devastated and traumatized to even want to talk to them again. Some people will quickly argue they would, but I think that only those who were never truly in love before the breakup would not feel the pain afterwards.
I can understand people in a ‘friends with benefits’ arrangements staying friends after they decide to go their different ways, because in the first place, they were never in love, so there’d be no resulting pain and heartbreak from the decision, but not when there were strong feelings attached.
You may be wondering why I sound so convinced a friendship after a breakup between Exes wouldn’t work, well, it’s because I have been in the position a number of times, and I understand how complicated it can get. You’re hurt after that breakup, and you don’t want anything to do with that person for a while, even after you recover from it all a bit, you still want to keep your distance because you don’t want to get too close, and start getting in your feelings again. So tell me how a good friendship is supposed to blossom with an Ex? It won’t and it can’t.
That has been my position on this topic, and it still is. You too can tell us what you think via the comment section.
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