Anger is an emotion that you shouldn’t let get the better of you; if you can control your feelings of anger, you’d be able to handle difficult situations.
Anger distorts your thinking pattern, your emotions and even the love you feel.
Are you quick to anger? These 6 questions might help you out.
1. “WHAT TRIGGERS MY ANGER?”
If you want to curb your anger, you should know what triggers it. Jealousy, the way people talk to you, people’s behaviour etc could be pointers. If you must overcome your bad anger habit, you must know what triggers it and learn to walk away.
2. “WHEN DO I GET ANGRY?”
Anger could also come with time; are you easily angered in the morning, afternoon or evening. Time could also influence your anger level.
3. “WHERE DO I GET ANGRY?”
Places could also trigger your angry feeling, and if you notice there are places where you’ll easily be angered and places where you’re calmer. Which place do you usually get angry? Your workplace? At home? In public? In a bus? Try to find out where you get angry the most.
4. “WHAT DO I THINK ABOUT WHEN ANGRY?”
Anger comes with its own thoughts, and of course they’re always negative. When you are calm, ponder on the things that run through your mind whenever you get angry, and you will be able to get a better grip of your emotions if you can think these things through.
5. “HOW DO I ACT WHEN I’M ANGRY?”
Try to ask yourself this very important question, or better still, you can ask a friend who will tell you the truth. And the truth is that most times you act immaturely and terribly when you are angry. If you can create a mental picture of your angry self, even you will be disappointed.
6. “HOW SHOULD I RESPOND?”
These 5 previous questions will give you tips as to what triggers you to become angry. After answering those questions and knowing what triggers your anger, you should then look for ways to respond when those toxic situations come again.
Having these questions in your head will give you the mental awareness to overcome anger and angry situations. It’ll help you prepare for those angry moments beforehand.
Jake