Understanding in a relationship is a beautiful thing; couples who have understanding in a relationship have better relationships than couples who don’t, — of course this is common knowledge.
How then can one know that their relationship lacks understanding?
These tips would reveal that:
1. YOU ARE BOTH BENT ON YOUR WILL
In a relationship where understanding is lacking, both partners tend to be bent on their own will; they don’t try to bend towards their partner’s will or look for a middle ground. No! It’s just two partners with two strong wills who are unwilling to bend for the other.
2. YOU ARE QUICK TO BLAME EACH OTHER
This is another characteristic of a relationship where understanding is lacking. Both partners fail to take responsibilities for their actions, but are quick to point accusing fingers at each other and blame each other for one mistake or the other.
3. CAN’T AGREE ON SIMPLE THINGS
Couples who don’t have an understanding relationship find it hard to agree on simple things. Simple things which should be easily agreed upon ends up being complex and difficult for couples like these.
4. MATTERS TAKE TIME TO GET RESOLVED
Couples in an understanding relationship also have issues, but difference lies in the fact that they’re willing to resolve their differences and in time too. However, the couples without understanding take forever to resolve a simple problem, not to talk of a complex one.
5. CONFLICTS NEVER FEEL RESOLVED
Even after conflicts take a long time to be resolved, it doesn’t feel resolved at the end of the day. This is why couples without understanding in their relationship tend to bring back the past, at every slight instance — because their conflicts never really feel resolved.
6. MALICE AND GRUDGES
Malice, grudges, contempt, retaliation and the lots are the order of the day in a relationship without understanding.
It’s okay to feel bitter about an issue with your partner; it only shows you are human. But when it gets to these traits mentioned above, then it shows that love and understanding are missing.
7. EXPECT THE OTHER PARTNER TO APOLOGISE
Couples that find it hard to understand each other in their relationships also find it hard to apologise to each other. Rather, they expect the other partner to apologise when they have an issue — no one is willing to take the first step towards reconciliation.
8. LITTLE THINGS ESCALATE
In a relationship without understanding, little things escalate easily. Have you seen a couple talking and laughing about a subject, and in five minutes time it enters a quarrel? It shows a lack of understanding when just a little joke, a little tease and a little argument could easily escalate into a big fight in a relationship.
9. YOU RARELY GET EACH OTHER
In a relationship of this sort, partners don’t really understand each other’s personality, they don’t understand their mode of thinking and they don’t really make efforts to.
Having understanding relationship is a wonderful thing; your relationship would be full of peace, love and togetherness.
Wouldn’t you love to have an understanding relationship? Read this article for that.
Shawn