A lot of women jump into relationships without evaluating the relationship after a period of time. After two to three months of being in a relationship, there should be certain things you should be sure of and you should know if that man is right for you or just occupying space.
These are some sure signs that he’s right for you:
1. HE’S HIGHLY INTERESTED IN YOU
When you are with the right person, you don’t force certain things, it should happen spontaneously. When you are with the right guy, you don’t have to beg for his attention, his love and his care — the right guy would show you all these in abundance because he’s highly interested in you.
2. YOUR HAPPINESS IS IMPORTANT TO HIM
The right man for you should value your happiness; I mean what’s the point of being in a relationship where you are meted out with unhappiness and the only time you gain happiness is when you fantasize what would have been. The right guy for you is the one that takes your happiness to heart.
3. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT
There is no perfect person, and with the right guy you don’t have to be perfect; all you have to do is be yourself. With the right guy, you are comfortable around him and you don’t have to be someone else to win his loyalty; you wouldn’t have to worry about him loving you less if you are yourself. He loves you in spite of your flaws.
4. YOU FEEL SECURE
With the right guy, you are comfortable, you are safe, you are secure, you are loved and you are valued. He doesn’t make you feel jealous about some other lady or make you feel insecure for whatsoever reasons, rather you have this assurance that you are with a man who values you.
5. HE MAKES YOU APPRECIATE THE PRESENT
When with the right guy, you would appreciate living in the present and looking forward to the future. The right guy would make you look back at your previous relationship(s) and make you realise that you’ve been with the wrong person after all.
6. THE WAY HE HANDLES CONFLICT
The guy who’s right for you would also handle conflicts in a mature way; rather than shouting at you or raising his hands on you, he would try to talk through things with you. The right guy wouldn’t try to subdue or oppress you in the relationship; he would treat you truly like you are his partner — with love and respect.
7. HE KNOWS A LOT ABOUT YOU
Certain things might seem effortless when you are with the right guy; he tries to understand you and know so much about you. It’s easy for him to tell when you are angry, happy or sad because he cares about you.
8. YOU STICK THROUGH EVEN AFTER YOUR WORST
Even after a fight or an argument or a misunderstanding, you stick with each other, you know how to come back to each other and you both know how to get through that crisis. With the right guy, you both value the relationship and try not to lose it.
9. THERE’S A BALANCE
I see a lot of ladies struggling so hard to maintain a relationship, but the truth about being with the right guy is that you wouldn’t have to try so hard because there would be a balance. With the right guy, the onus wouldn’t be on you alone to push the relationship forward, but he would also be interested and show enough commitment to making the relationship better.
I think even your mind would feel at peace when you are with the right guy, and you would understand all that you’ve been missing.
ViV