It’s not rare for couples to fall out of love with each other. But why do they fall out of love especially after all the energy that their love pulled in the beginning?
In some relationships, couples even fall out of love just weeks after they started dating. Not just in relationships, many marriages crash just after it starts. Of course you must you have read about some celebrity marriages that crashed almost immediately after.
Like I asked earlier, why do this happen? Why do love fizzle out even after it starts on a high?
There are 9 major reasons why couples fall out of love
1. THE RELATIONSHIP WAS BUILT ON THE WRONG FOUNDATION
This is a typical reason why many relationships don’t stand the test of time. When couples fall in love for the wrong reasons, when they are probably ‘in lust’ with each other, the relationship is bound to crash in due time. While the strength of love is deeper, that of lust is just shallow and would fizzle out easily.
2. NOT COMFORTABLE WITH EACH OTHER’S FLAWS
This is also another reason couples fall out of love. When you see someone from a distance, they might look perfect, and after a few dates with them they might look like the best thing in the world. However, when the relationship starts proper, couples get to see the flaws and faults in each other that they didn’t notice at first — it’s either they get comfortable with each other’s flaws and look past it or they don’t. In many cases, couples fall out of love because they can’t live with each other’s flaws.
3. COMMUNICATION DROPPED
Communication is an important aspect of every relationship. Communication is important when couples are apart, in distance relationships and even when they’re together. A lot of couples feel that communication is only vital when they’re far away, but that isn’t true; communication is talking and listening to your partner, and this should be done every day. Once communication levels drop, the relationship suffers.
4. THEY LET GRUDGES GROW
Grudges are like weeds, they shouldn’t be given room to grow in your relationship, they have a multiplier effect, and if given the chance they can kill every bit of love in the relationship slow and steady. This is why it’s good for partners to sort things out on time.
5. DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS
Couples enter relationships with different expectations, and once that expectation is cut off, the love suffers. Some enter a relationship with high expectations, and when those expectations aren’t met, they gradually fall out of love.
6. THEY STOPPED WORKING
Relationship isn’t once in a week job, it isn’t a once in a year job, it’s a daily job — you ought to work daily, you ought to plant good seeds daily so that the love keeps growing. Once the love becomes stagnated, the next step after that is downwards till everything fizzles out. Falling in love isn’t enough, working hard to keep the relationship going is the bigger deal.
7. TRUST DIES
Trust is essential in every relationship. Once jealousy and mistrust starts to creep in, they bring other negative vices that wouldn’t help the relationship one bit. Trust makes you assured, a lack of it means something is wrong somewhere, and if it isn’t fixed, your relationship would keep suffering.
8. CONSTANT MISUNDERSTANDING
Obviously, quarreling, fighting, nagging and constant complaining never brings any good. These traits only create bitterness in your heart, and love and bitterness can never live together — one eventually wins, and it’s hardly ever love, especially if those misunderstandings aren’t sorted on time.
9. TAKING THINGS FOR GRANTED
This is one mistake many couples are culpable of. They take things for granted believing that the love would last forever. Taking things in the relationship for granted or taking your partner for granted means you don’t give your all to the relationship, and once this happens, the relationship is likely to decline with time.
Falling in love isn’t enough; staying in love and maintaining the passion are the hard part.
Shawn