Relationships don’t become better for no reason or worse for no reason; it’s the actions of the couples in that relationship that would make it either better or worse.
A lot of the times couples unknowingly do things that will hurt their relationship, and they probably don’t even know it.
These are some of those ways you both ruin your relationship.
1. YOU DON’T APPRECIATE EACH OTHER ENOUGH
You both need to appreciate each other to make yourselves feel good about the relationship and feel better about yourself. When you don’t appreciate each other, you gradually kill the love and affection in the relationship.
2. YOU ARGUE OVER LITTLE THINGS
Many couples live this way; they can’t just let things slide — every mistake is a quarrel and even things that shouldn’t cause a quarrel cause major quarrels. Arguing over little things will create a seed of discord in your lives, and where there’s bitterness, love can’t exist.
3. YOU EXPECT PERFECTION
It’s normal for a partner to make mistakes or even do something wrong; but what isn’t normal is to expect your partner to be perfect, and this is what many couples do in their relationships.
4. YOU LOOK AT EACH OTHER’S ISSUES
Everyone have their issues, their weak points and certain traits that aren’t healthy. Rather than focus on bettering themselves, a lot of couples point accusing fingers at each other, and this ruins their relationship.
5. YOU ARE BOTH SELF-CENTRED
It’s hard enough to have one self-centred partner in the relationship, but when both partners tend to think of their individual selves first, then that relationship can hardly be successful.
6. YOU SAY HARSH THINGS TO EACH OTHER
What you say to each other is very important; if you say positive things to each other, the relationship will be positive, and if you say negative things to each other, the relationship will be negative. Surprisingly, many partners say more negative things to each other than positive things, killing their relationship the more.
7. YOU DON’T SUPPORT EACH OTHER’S GOALS
You should be each other’s biggest fan, supporter and cheerleader; if you can’t be this to each other, then I wonder what you are doing together. Many couples tend to pursue only their own personal goals without being supportive or being there for the other partner.
8. YOU WITHHOLD AFFECTION
It’s very important to show affection to your partner regularly; it’s important to tell and show each other just how much you mean to each other. Surprisingly, many couples tend to carry grudges, become emotionally unavailable, unforgiving and care less about how the other partner feels.
There are countless other ways many partners ruin the good relationship they have; on the long run, they tend to replace good deeds with negative ones, and expect the relationship to grow.
If you are guilty of these, it’s never too late to change. Only then can your relationship get better.
Shawn