Nagging is constant complaining and criticising one’s character and behaviour. Whether right or wrong, nagging is an unhealthy character and one that would spoil any relationship.
There are different levels of nagging; incessant nagging is the most extreme, and this could drive your partner crazy.
Do you want to know the signs you are a nagging partner? Read these tips here.
Now, let’s learn how to quit being a nag.
1. KILL THE ANGER AND IRRITATION
Nagging is usually as a result of anger and irritation. When you get easily angry and irritated with your partner, you would nag easily. Nagging comes as a result of being unable to control your irritation and anger towards your partner. If you can learn to be a tolerable partner, then you would learn to quit nagging.
2. LEARN TO DO IT YOURSELF
If your partner won’t do it, try to do it yourself; this might not make you happy, but it would keep you from nagging.
3. LOOK FOR BETTER WAYS TO COMMUNICATE
Look for more effective ways to communicate with your partner. Rather than constantly saying it, just say it once. Whether you feel you are right about it, say it once.
Also, understand your partner’s communication pattern; everyone has a way of communicating that would make them do things they wouldn’t ordinarily do.
4. BE YOUR SWEET SELF
If you want your partner to do something, be your sweet self, rather than nag about it. Learn to say “please”, “thank you” and be more romantic.
5. SETTLE FOR A PARTIAL VICTORY
You can’t have it your way all the time; if your partner would do it but not the way you feel it should be done, settle for it that way.
6. IT MUSTN’T BE DONE AT YOUR OWN TIME
Learn to let your partner do some things at their own time and pace. Most times, a lot of nagging partners want things done their way and their time, and this isn’t really right.
7. APPRECIATE IMPROVEMENTS
If your partner makes a little improvement regarding a situation, learn to appreciate it. When you appreciate your partner for an improvement, they would go the extra mile.
8. ASSIGN CHORES BASED ON PERSONAL PREFERENCES
If your partner prefers to do the dishes than arrange the bedroom, let them do the dishes, while you arrange the bedroom.
Being a nagging partner wouldn’t help solve anything; it would even make your relationship with your partner tense.