Most times, it’s how we handle conflicts and issues that come with relationships that would go a long way in deciding how successful or unsuccessful the relationship would turn out.
Love sometimes isn’t enough; I’ve seen couples who deeply love each other, but don’t know how to live peacefully with each other. Relationships like these always have the case of breakup today and makeup the next.
In the long run, the inability to handle relationship conflicts would definitely ruin your relationship.
With these eight tips, you would handle conflicts in your relationship much better.
1. HANDLE YOUR EMOTIONS FIRST
The ability to handle relationship conflicts starts from within. Everyone have varying levels of emotions like anger, and an emotion such as this would make you unable to handle your relationship issues.
So, deal with your personal demons first and foremost; learn how to calm yourself when angry and you are halfway there.
2. PUT AWAY CONTEMPT AND UNDUE CRITICISM
Besides anger, contempt is another thing that makes couples unable to resolve issues — and contempt would end up worsening the feeling of anger.
Contempt include acts like disrespecting your partner, being insulting, acting superior, harshly criticising them, and even ridiculing your partner. Many people are fond of these during arguments; put away such acts and your relationship would be better of.
3. LEARN TO ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER’S VALUES
Couples fight over issues mostly because they have different values and methods of achieving what they want, and inability to recognise this would heighten tensions in the relationship.
Try to understand your partner’s response even if you don’t agree with them. Understanding their point of view would definitely make things easier; there wouldn’t be an agreement at this point, but there also wouldn’t be a fight and that’s a step in the right direction.
4. LEARN TO LISTEN
This is another issue that conflicting couples seem to have. For the previous tip to be duly applied, couples should learn to listen to each other — you would never fully understand your partner’s point of view if you don’t listen.
5. DON’T SEE IT AS A SITUATION YOU MUST WIN
Another reason couples can’t resolve issues peacefully is because they most likely see it as a case they must win. Your relationship shouldn’t be treated like a case in the court of law; when you see things like that then your relationship suffers. When you treat your relationship in a way that you must win then you are only digging the grave of your relationship without knowing.
6. PATIENCE
Patience is an important virtue and it’s one that’s highly important in relationships. Without patience then every other tip would be hard to practice during conflicts.
7. LEARN TO COMPROMISE
Compromise is like finding a middle ground. Finding this middle ground would make both partners feel safe and respected. If you’ve tried to win over your partner and it didn’t then you shouldn’t force it — be ready to compromise.
8. LIVE IT IN THE PAST AND MAKEUP
Making up is one important part that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Inability to do this would make grudges and probably hatred grow gradually — and this isn’t healthy for your relationship.
Now that you’ve learnt how to handle conflicts, put it to practice and watch your relationship grow stronger and stronger, because the inability to handle these conflicts can even turn love to hate if care isn’t taken.
ShawnÂ