Asking a lady out that is bent on playing hard to get could be quite frustrating for men. Things have quite gotten easier for men as ladies are now sincere and direct compared to previous years where almost every lady had the ‘hard to get mentality’.
Inasmuch as not all ladies play the hard to get game, a vast population still believe in playing hard to get and they have their reasons which I’d share.
I would reveal 8 reasons the lady you are asking out is probably playing hard to get.
1. MEN PREFER IT THAT WAY
Inasmuch as most men out there would complain and get frustrated when a lady plays hard to get, deep down they would still prefer the chase than when a lady easily says yes. When it’s just so easy, it would take that thrill of chasing a lady, but the bumpy ride is usually more enjoyed by men even though they would act like they want it easy. Ladies understand this about men and play hard to get for this reason.
2. SELF-ESTEEM
Knowing that a man admires you and is ready to do a lot of chasing just to get you would do a lot of good to your self-esteem. Ladies have that extra confidence within them when they are valued by men. Not that all ladies need men to make them feel good but that feeling that you are wanted is always a great feeling.
3. SHE’S PROBABLY NOT INTERESTED
This is one angle men fail to look at; sometimes hard to get just means ‘I don’t want a relationship with you’. If she doesn’t like you, she would toy with you till you eventually give up.
4. TEST
Sometimes ladies use the ‘hard to get’ game to test the sincerity of a man. In the mind of a lady, ‘if he loves me he wouldn’t give up easily’. One thing about this test is that the duration differs from lady to lady; while some ladies would want to test you for a month, another would prefer two months and another would even go for half a year, while some very emotional protected lady wouldn’t mind you chasing her for a year.
5. THE SLUT TAG
The message that’s passed across when a lady gives in easy to a man is that she’s a slut and this is one tag most ladies wouldn’t want. Some men would even brag to their friends on how easy they got a lady, hence tagging her slut or something close to that. Ladies understand this too and would rather play hard to get than being tagged a slut.
6. MOST MEN ARE INSINCERE
This is also another reason ladies are scared to give in easily. So many guys out there are so insincere about their emotions. Some would profess love but when they get in her pants, it would be more like mission accomplished. Also, some would deny having any other relationship while they have loads of ladies around the corner. This insincerity makes most ladies scared and playing hard to get is a means they use to be sure of his feelings before saying yes.
7. THE FEEL GOOD FACTOR
You would hardly see a lady who doesn’t enjoy that feel good factor when a man comes up with the ‘I can do anything for you’ scenario. Even if she has no intention of saying yes to you, she wouldn’t mind having that man thrill her with his antics; she would enjoy the moment but would still say no.
8. BACKUP LOVER
A recent study revealed that half of women have a backup lover; I don’t really need a research to reveal this; it’s already an obvious. Most women have backup lovers especially when they see that their current relationship isn’t going out as planned. Most women in that kind of relationship would have a backup lover and so would play hard to get while still leading the man on.
So fellas, if you are asking a lady out and she gives you the hard to get game, just check up this article and it would probably be one of these reasons why she does that.
ViV