Traditionally, before a man or a woman decides to get married, the father ought to give his son some words of advice before he takes that next big step, and the mother ought to do likewise to her daughter before she gets married.
The advice a parent gives to the child before they venture into marriage can go a long way in preparing that person mentally and emotionally for marriage, and that can go a long way in making a marriage peaceful.
With marriage breaking up easily these days, and divorce happening too frequently, these are some of those pieces of advice many parents forget to tell their children before marriage.
1. WHEN ONE PARTNER IS ANGRY, THE OTHER SHOULD BE CALM
This is probably the biggest piece of advice you can get about having a peaceful marriage. When one partner is angry, the other ought to be calmer. When you and your partner are angry at the same time, then problems that will kill the peace of the home will definitely come up.
2. DON’T TAKE EVERYTHING TOO SERIOUSLY
Not everything your partner says or do should be taken seriously. Try not to be always serious; you choke your marriage when you do this. Loosen up a little, learn to take a joke and be more cheerful.
3. EVERY DAY SHOULD BE A NEW DAY
Every day should be treated as a new day; the troubles, misunderstanding and aggression of the previous day shouldn’t enter the next day. Every day is a new day and should be treated so.
4. ARGUMENTS SHOULDN’T BE A BATTLE
Arguments with your partner shouldn’t be treated as a battle; it’s not a win or lose situation, and shouldn’t be treated so. There’s wisdom in learning to back down sometimes.
5. LETTING GO SOMETIMES SHOW MATURITY.
You’ll save your marriage a lot of stress if you can learn to let go. The inability to let go is what kills the peace in most marriages.
6. SETTLE YOUR DIFFERENCES ON TIME
Learn to settle your differences early enough, so that love can have enough room to grow.
7. Don’t always wait for your partner to take the first step in reconciliation. A lot of partners make this terrible mistake, and it hurts the peace of many marriages. When there’s a problem between you and your partner, it ought to be fixed — not left alone. Taking the first step to reconciliation clearly shows how mentally ready you are for marriage.
8. Watch what you say to your partner, especially when you are angry. Words can bore large holes in your partner’s heart and you wouldn’t know.
Many parents no longer give their children sound marital advice anymore; but if you want to experience peace in your marriage, then you should have these tips at your finger tips.
Shawn