There are so many relationship habits people have that shouldn’t exist in relationships; people feel it’s okay to do certain things, or it wouldn’t matter. Everything matters as far as relationships are concerned; sometimes, what you feel doesn’t matter matters the most.
Sometimes, love alone wouldn’t save your relationship; if you have some of these habits then they might kill your relationship with time.
1. THE BLAME GAME
This is one habit that should be far from your relationship at all times. ‘Oh he did this’ and ‘she did that’. When couples try to fault each other at every slight relationship mishap, the relationship suffers — no one comes out a winner in this.
2. NOT TALKING
Some people expect their partners to know their mind, or they keep their feelings and emotions to themselves. This is a dangerous relationship habit that should be far away from your relationship. Communication is an important aspect of a relationship — it is the oil that lubricates every part of the relationship, it prevents rust. When you don’t have good communication in your relationship then your relationship would never be successful.
3. LOW SELF-ESTEEM
Esteem issue is another habit that has led to the demise of many relationships, and it’s one that should be far from your relationship. Low self-esteem would make you believe you aren’t good enough for your partner; low self-esteem would make you jealous and suspicious for no reason; low self-esteem would lead you to make bad decisions — it would even kill your charm and the attraction your partner has for you.
4. PRIDE
Pride is another risky habit that should be far from your relationship. Pride is one thing that has made many relationships to crumble; pride would make you feel you’re indispensable, pride would make you feel too big to say a simple sorry — pride will fill your head with numerous bad ideas, and it only leaves you just after the worst happens.
5. THINKING YOU’RE PERFECT
This habit is like a sister to pride, it’s just as dangerous too. It’s easy to see what your partner does wrong and what you do right — with this, the tape playing in your head would be far different from reality. Never for one second think you’re perfect, it never pays. Ask your partner what they feel you do wrong, ask for your bad habits… and that’s how you become better.
6. THINKING YOUR PARTNER WOULD NEVER LEAVE
Having that belief that your partner would never leave is also another that should be far from your relationship. When you think this way, you stop working to boost your relationship; you become nonchalant and take things for granted. People cheat and keep cheating because of this belief, people keep repeating same mistakes because of this belief — it’s wrong and unhealthy.
7. HAVING THINGS YOUR WAY
It’s either your way or no one else’s — this is a bad way to do things, and many people have this habit without even knowing. Every relationship needs compromise to be successful; every partner ought to learn to see the good in their partner’s judgement.
8. KEEPING SCORES
People are better at remembering the bad their partner did even a long time ago than remembering the good that their partner did the previous day. Keeping scores would only heighten the tension in your relationship, and your relationship would always lose at the end of it all. A relationship never goes sour overnight, it’s the accumulation of these habits and many more that kills relationships.
Shawn