Apologising for a wrong done is a healthy step to reconciliation, but then not every apology is indeed an apology.
When the apology isn’t from your heart, then it’s the same thing as not apologising at all.
These forms of apologising are wrong, and don’t show remorse.
1. BLAMING SOMEONE ELSE
When you blame someone else while apologising, then it’s no longer a heartfelt apology. Apologising while blaming someone else shows that you don’t really feel remorse for the wrong done.
2. ASSUMING THE ISSUE IS MINOR
If you hurt someone or did something wrong to someone, then you should just apologise and move on with it. Once you start suggesting that the issue is minor and doesn’t warrant the person to be upset, then it’s no longer an apology.
3. EXPECTING FORGIVENESS IMMEDIATELY
People do wrong and hurt others, and just expect to be forgiven, simply because they apologised. Apologies don’t work that way. If you hurt someone’s emotions, you shouldn’t expect to be forgiven immediately after apologising; you have to understand that the person has the right to feel hurt and that the pains have to heal too.
4. NO BUTS
Any apology with a “but” isn’t a true apology; it shows that the apology isn’t sincere enough.
5. YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
Your body language is just as important as your apology, or probably even more important. When you apologise, but your body language doesn’t suggest that you feel remorse, then it’s not a sincere apology.
6. YOUR ACTIONS
Your actions should also portray how sorry you are. When you apologise for a wrong, it should be backed with actions; you should be ready to do things that truly suggest you are sorry.
7. “CAN’T WE MOVE PAST THIS?”
Saying sorry while asking this question only shows how insincere your apology is. It shows a blatant disregard for the way that person is feeling.
Apologies should be true and sincere; any form of apology that comes in this way isn’t real.
Jake