Getting married comes with a lot of changes; the transition from being in a relationship with a partner to getting married to that partner is quite a big deal.
When you get married, some certain things might change, and it’s important you know how to handle those changes, so your marriage would only get better.
These are some changes that might happen.
1. MONEY MANAGEMENT
You and your partner would most likely have different ideologies regarding how to use money; how to spend, when to spend and when not to spend is usually a big deal with many couples. The only way this can be solved is through communication.
You shouldn’t be afraid of doing the money talk; talk to each other about the difference in your opinions, listen to each other, and be a team rather than try to control each other.
2. RESPONSIBILITIES
With marriage comes bigger responsibilities; you are no longer single, you now have yourself and your partner to cater for — and then the kids would come in later. This could pose a problem if care isn’t taken; both partners should be willing to help each other out with the responsibilities and also talk to each other about it.
3. COMMUNICATION CHANGES
Before getting married, you probably lived apart and somehow communication was easy. You could talk about things on the phone, text each other and even use social media. But marriage is different; communication is more face to face, and if you don’t adapt to this, it might affect your marriage.
Communication shouldn’t be mechanical and shouldn’t be different; if you used to flirt with each other before, don’t stop. Rather than changing the whole communication setup or be too serious with each other, just be yourself with each other and make communicating with each other fun.
4. YOUR SOCIAL LIFE
This is where many couples life change the most after marriage. When you get married, your social life might not be as active as it used to be, and late nights would definitely take a dip. While hanging out with friends might be a normalcy for you before, it would also have to change.
The best bet to handling the changes in your social life is to have a social life with your partner and also build an understanding relationship with each other, so you can both maintain good social life with your friends in a way that it won’t affect your marriage.
5. DIFFERENCES IN GOALS AND DREAMS
You would still have goals and dreams that you’ve always had and your partner too would; if this isn’t well handled, it might affect your marriage. The best bet is to support each other’s dreams, make sure it doesn’t affect your marriage and also have a collective dream.
6. A BIT OF NONCHALANCE
It’s normal for couples to be extremely committed to each other before getting married, want the best for each other and show enough commitment to make it happen. However, when the goal of getting married has long sunk in, nonchalance might begin to settle in, and if you give it a chance, it would slowly tear your marriage apart.
Never give nonchalance the chance to step in; never take each other for granted, even for a second; do the little things and ensure you show each other love in abundance every day. Never take satisfaction in the fact that you are married; the goal should be to have a wonderful marriage.
7. FIRSTHAND FLAWS
You would also see the flaws firsthand that your partner has that you didn’t notice all along; you would get to know each other more, and it’s at this stage the real work starts. Learn to look away from the flaws sometimes and love your partner in spite of them.
Dealing with the changes that come with getting married would help better your marriage.
Shawn