Self-assessment is the best thing you can do for yourself; assess yourself and know whether you are towing the right path or going the wrong path.
The worst thing a person can do is going the wrong way and still believing you are right on track.
There are certain attributes that will make you a bad wife, and no matter how good you are as a person, if you don’t curb those things, you’d make a terrible wife.
Being a good woman doesn’t guarantee you’ll be a good wife; being a good wife is a different ball game entirely.
These are some signs that show you may not make a good wife:
1. YOU ARE TOO OPINIONATED
Women who are too opinionated, in the sense that, it’s their way and their way alone, tend to make terrible wives. A woman who can’t be bent and who’s always adamant will make a home full of quarrels.
2. YOU DON’T LISTEN
Listening is very important and has lots of benefits; when you are a listener, communication will be easier with you and you’d be able to understand your partner better. However, a woman who doesn’t listen will be the opposite; she’d make it difficult for communication to exist in the marriage and it will be difficult to build a marriage full of understanding with her.
3. YOU’RE NOT CONTENTED
A woman who doesn’t appreciate is a woman who isn’t contented. Contentment is a very important trait that will make a marriage peaceful. Most marriages aren’t peaceful because of a lack of contentment. A woman who’s barely contended will always seek for more and will forget to appreciate the things done for her, especially the little things.
4. YOU’RE SELF-CENTRED
‘Self’ is a strong reason many marriages collapse; when all you think about is yourself, then you can never be a good wife. The role of a woman and a wife is a very important and sensitive one, and for her to play that role very well, she must be selfless. A selfish woman can never make a good wife.
5. YOU DON’T COMPLEMENT/COMPLIMENT YOUR HUSBAND
A woman ought to complement her man; in the sense that she should be his strength when he’s weak, and she should cover his flaws and make him strong. Any woman who can’t play this role can hardly make a good wife.
Also, a wise woman is also wise with her words. A woman who knows how to lift her man up with her words is a wise woman, but a woman who brings her man down with her words will never be a good wife.
6. YOU’RE FULL OF COMPLAINS
Complains, nagging, always criticising, never being grateful – a woman like this can never make a good wife.
7. YOU’RE DIFFICULT TO PLEASE
A lot of men don’t know how to please their wives, not for lack of trying but because the women are just so difficult to please. Any woman with this difficult trait will only make the marriage difficult for the man.
Being a good woman doesn’t guarantee you to being a good wife; for you to be a good wife, you must understand and play the roles of a good wife.
ViV