I’m sure you must have heard that popular saying “two wrongs would never make it right”? As popular as that saying might be, many people go on to practice tit for tat in their relationships / marriages without minding the consequence it would have on the relationship.
It’s funny when couples say “he / she started it first” and give it as a reason for retaliation. Such tactics would never help your relationship, and I have reasons why.
1. A RELATIONSHIP SHOULDN’T BE A BATTLEGROUND
Many people take their relationship with their partner as a win or lose situation, and in a bid not to lose they dish out what their partner gives to them — insults for insults, abuse for abuse, a wicked act for another etc. This isn’t a relationship; a relationship is never a battleground or a situation where it’s either you win or the other wins. If you and your partner aren’t winning together then you are definitely losing together; there are no individual victories in relationships.
2. YOU SET FURTHER RESENTMENT
When you meet a wrong back with another wrong, you only make your relationship suffer. This would create room for resentment, grudges, malice and other negative vices.
3. IMMATURITY
Simply put, a relationship where forgiveness doesn’t exist or where a wrong is met with another wrong is only a sign of immaturity. A relationship is a union for mature couples; if you can’t act maturely then there is no reason being in a relationship.
4. YOU MAKE IT HARD FOR FORGIVENESS
When couples wrong each other time after time, they make it difficult for forgiveness to thrive in their relationship and you know how important forgiveness is in a relationship.
5. YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS BOUND TO FAIL
Your relationship with your partner is bound to fail if you both punish a wrong with another. Such a relationship is built on the wrong foundation and would never be successful.
6. YOU MAKE LOVE ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE
Love is almost an impossible theory when two wrongs always come off each other. You can’t say you love your partner if you meet their wrongs with yours. This doesn’t show love and it makes it almost impossible for love to exist.
7. SIMPLE THINGS BECOME DIFFICULT
In a relationship where couples treat a wrong with another, they make things difficult for themselves. Communication is harder and simple things tend to lead to major problems.
Two wrongs won’t make your relationship better; it wouldn’t add any positive to your relationship and you further create enmity between you and your partner if you both dish out wrongs after wrongs.
Shawn