Letting go is one of the toughest decisions for many; many people find it hard to let go of certain friendships and relationships even when they know that such a relationship is no longer useful to them.
Sometimes we could get uncomfortable in relationships, probably because it has become toxic to us but still hang on to it for flimsy reasons or even fear.
Letting go of certain people who no longer align with your life is always an important decision to make, and below are seven reasons why.
1. YOU NO LONGER TRUST AND BELIEVE IN THE RELATIONSHIP
When you no longer trust and believe in having any form of relationship with a person, it’s usually for a reason — such a feeling never comes out of the blue, it’s your inner self trying to tell you a truth you find difficult to believe. When you no longer trust and believe in that relationship then it’s time to move on.
2. THE RELATIONSHIP IS DAMAGING TO YOU
A relationship or friendship with a person can be hazardous to you, and there is no need enduring such a relationship. If the relationship or friendship puts you in harm’s way or is damaging your emotions, happiness and general well-being, you ought to let go of that relationship.
3. YOU TEACH YOURSELF TO BE BRAVE
Making this kind of decision which a lot of people wouldn’t (even if they want to) would actually teach you to be braver. Life is full of many challenging situations where you would be forced to make difficult and tough choices; if you can’t make a decision to cut off people who aren’t adding any value to you but reducing then you might find those life’s decisions even harder to make.
4. YOU GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO MEET NEW PEOPLE
When you let go of the toxic people in your life, you give yourself the opportunity to meet new people, and with these new people come new encounters that would teach you more important values. Create room for new people rather than stay stuck with old relationships that wouldn’t help your life in any way.
5. YOU LEARN TO BE INDEPENDENT
Not many people know how to be independent; rather they hang on to old relationships just because they can’t be alone. It’s better to be alone than stay stuck in a relationship that has become toxic to you. Making this decision would teach you to be independent.
6. YOU LEARN TO MOVE ON
Moving on is an important aspect of life. Clinging on to unimportant relationships would make it impossible to move on in life. But when you know that the relationship isn’t worth it and you move on, you would learn to move on in other life’s important issues. Knowing how to move on is an important aspect of life.
7. IF YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE PUSHING FOR THE RELATIONSHIP
If you are the only one fighting for the relationship to work, you might lose yourself in the process. A relationship ought to be about two people with common interests and goals coming together to better themselves. When it’s just you fighting for the relationship then it isn’t a relationship anymore and you have to let it go.
Not every friendship or relationship is actually worth the hassle; analyse your life and know the ones that have become toxic to you and learn to let go.
Jake