In a pretentious world like ours, where a lot of people claim to be who they’re not, it’s always difficult to tell who’s genuinely attracted and committed to being in your life for the longer term.
There are a lot of guys out there who are in one ‘serious relationship’ or another, and are hopeful of taking the giant leap with their partner, but oftentimes, in relationships, both partners don’t always share the same goals. While one may be looking forward to taking it down the altar, the other may have other plans/intentions. So, for a lot of men who have found themselves in a situation like this, disappointment is always the end point. So if you’re getting into or are in a relationship with a woman with marriage at the back of your mind, guys, you need to be extra careful and observant, because that is the only way you’ll realize the true situation of things before it’s too late. Humans are not that difficult to understand, it’s just that we fail to pay enough attention to details sometimes. A woman who truly is interested will show it, just as the one who doesn’t will.
These are the things to expect from a woman who doesn’t think long-term…
1. SHE ASKS MORE THAN YOU CAN GIVE, AND DOESN’T GIVE BACK (IN TERMS OF MONEY)
It’s very acceptable and normal for partners in a relationship to seek financial support from one another; however, there should be a limit to everything we do. If you’re seeking financial and material support from your partner, your requests must be within his/her strength. When you ask more than your partner can give, then you’re just not looking out for them anymore, but trying to run them into bankruptcy. A woman who is interested in building for the future with you would only do things that will work in favour of a positive one. She may ask you for money and gifts, but she’d do it with some degree of moderation. Most of her energy would be channelled instead into helping you secure a good future, by encouraging you to save up as much as you can.
Another thing is that, she’d also spend on you occasionally, to pass the message that she’s supportive. If your woman doesn’t do these, but rather demands and demands all the time, brother, she’s not thinking beyond the present, and you shouldn’t be doing so either.
2. SHE NEVER ASKS YOU ABOUT YOUR FUTURE PLANS AND MARRIAGE
Fellas, don’t ever get it twisted, when a woman constantly asks you about your plans for her/your future, and marriage, it isn’t because she’s ‘desperately trying to tie you down’, but because she’s interested in being in your life for a long, long time. A woman who never asks these questions doesn’t have any plan of being in your life beyond the now (or next couple of years).
3. SHE DOESN’T SHOW ANY EAGERNESS TOWARDS YOUR MEETING HER FAMILY
For me, this is one of the major ways people show it when they’re willing to take their relationship further, to the next step (marriage).
When someone is bold and mature enough to take you to their parents and siblings, it means that they’re very committed to that relationship, and willing to stick with you.
Women generally, are the ones who push for their partner to meet their family when the intentions are serious, so if she’s not showing any eagerness for you to visit and meet her family, it’s a simple sign that she’s not interested in you beyond the now.
4. SHE’S NOT PROUD OF YOU
The simple truth about emotions is that they’re hard to compress. A person who’s truly in love with you would show you off at the slightest opportunity. When going for a special event for two, they’ll take you along without thinking twice about it. They’d even introduce you to their friends, in an unconscious attempt to show you off, and show how much they value you. If a woman who claims to love you and is in a relationship with you is not proud of you enough to at least show you off to her friends, then there’s nothing there for you, brother!
5. SHE’S NOT HUMBLE, AND ALWAYS TRIES TO BOSS YOU OVER
Humility and meekness are some of the major character traits exhibited by someone who’s truly is looking at the bigger picture in your relationship— someone who is hoping to tie the knot, and be a part of your home someday. They listen to your advice, take corrections from you, and never try to make you appear like the lesser one in the relationship. A woman who makes it look like she’s doing you a favour by dating you doesn’t love you for real, and will ditch you when the time comes.
6. SHE’S NOT INTERESTED IN RAISING A FAMILY
So every time you bring up the topic of having kids together, she brushes it off with one excuse or another? Bro, she’s not thinking long-term with you, and may not be there with you tomorrow. Children are an essential part of any family / marriage. If someone doesn’t show the desire to have them, even after they claim to want to marry you, you certainly need to look beyond the surface, as they may simply be playing on your intelligence.
So that was it, guys, I trust you’ve learned something useful? Like I said, paying closer attention to your partner is the only key to unfolding whatever hidden agendas and pretentious nature they may be fronting. If you could do that for yourself, heartbreak and disappointment would be almost absent in your life. Thank you for your time, and for choosing El Crema.
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