First of all, who is a non-committal lover? Simply put, they’re the sort of partners you have no future with. For them, dating is for fun; they don’t see it as a platform for something greater or better. So marriage is never on the cards. It’s about the moment, and nothing more.
The truth about non-committal lovers is that most times, it’s crystal clear that they’re not interested in having more than a dating relationship, but those involved with them often get carried away by emotions, and somehow begin to delude themselves with the thought that the relationship could eventually lead to marriage— even when there is evidence to the contrary. This is when they begin to make mistakes and commit too much…and at the end of the day, they are disappointed.
You cannot offer your love and heart to someone who doesn’t value it and expect a positive outcome; disappointment and regret are what will follow. Love isn’t foolish, rather it’s careful. I’ve always said this in my previous articles; do not get involved in something/someone you know deep inside you can’t deal with, and cling on to a false hope that somehow, things will turn out well in future–no, they won’t! You have no reason whatsoever to get involved with a non-committal person, but if you must, then, for your own good, please thread with caution. There are things you must never do; they are…
1. DO NOT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE
It’s OK to make sacrifices for your partner, but only when it’s rational. If he claims to love you enough to be with you, then, he must be willing to accept you the way you are. Everyone has flaws; that is why we are humans. Our abilities to tolerate those flaws are the true measure of our love. Do not let anyone turn you into someone else, only to dump you for another someday, and leave you damaged and full of regret.
2. DO NOT ABANDON YOUR ASPIRATIONS AND DREAMS
I’ve seen people give up their dreams and aspirations in a bid to please their partner, and at the end of the day, when the relationship goes wrong they begin to blame him or her for their loss. I believe that if someone truly has your interest at heart, they’d do anything to see you become who you want to. They’d even put in financial assistance if need be. They’d support you to become what you want to become in life, and not try to deter you from pursuing it.
3. DO NOT FORGET YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Some people get into a relationship, and they feel they have ‘arrived’. They stop caring about/cut ties with those people who were there for them from day one, forgetting that no one man can be an island. You will always need friends and family; maybe not today but maybe tomorrow. They’re the ones, who’ll support you when things get difficult. Keep them around.
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