One of the most difficult decisions people face when it comes to dating is that of being able to successfully tell real love from infatuation, and that is because the two of them are almost similar. The only way you can tell one from the other is if you give it time, and pay attention to every tiny detail about your feelings and the attitude of the other person towards you. The simple truth though, is that those who are able to tell when it’s real from when it’s not are the happiest and safest from a potentially awful experience.
Many women are in a relationship where they’re not really sure how they feel about the man. If you’re one of such people, it could be that you’re seeing the wrong person.
One of the many signs of infatuation is uncertainty about the way you feel. If you’re in a relationship where you have to continually question your feelings, then, it’s probably the wrong one. Take a look at some other signs you’re dating the wrong person.
1. YOU’RE NEVER YOURSELF AROUND HIM
One of the many good things about true love is that it comes with good friendship. You cannot be in love and not be fond of your partner. This friendship of course, is what would allow the both of you to be very comfortable around each other. Friends do not have to put up an appearance or fake emotions just to Please each other, they’re always at ease and can be themselves around each other.
If you’re not comfortable being yourself, and feel like you have to become another person around your partner, then, there is something wrong about that relationship. Lovers should be able to say and do anything around each other without having to worry about how the other might react to it. Your lover should love you for who you are, not who you have to be…for them.
2. HE’S NEVER IN- TOUCH WITH YOUR FEELINGS (HE DOESN’T LISTEN)
One quality a good lover possesses is the ability to always listen and hear out his partner, so as to be in touch with her feelings all the time. If your lover is the type that likes to talk about himself always, ask or give you a chance to speak your mind and make your feelings known, and seems distant whenever you try to make open your emotions, he might just be the wrong man for you. Relationships are about give and take, and two people connecting emotionally. If that emotional connection isn’t there, there’s no point being there at all.
3. YOU FIGHT MORE THAN YOU PLAY
There’s no one relationship without occasional fights and quarrels; those are a part of dating because you are two different people. However, there’s a limit to how much of everything there should be. If you spend more time fighting and quarrelling with your partner, when you should be laughing and playing together, something is not right, you should get out of such a relationship because you both do not agree. One of the signs it’s real is that there is always the willingness to compromise and find a common ground. If you lack that, you’re clearly in the wrong relationship.
4. YOU ARE NOT EXCITED ABOUT A FUTURE WITH HIM
The major purpose of dating is to get to meet someone you can spend the rest of your life with — that is the reason a lot of people get into it. If you have never ever imagined being with him beyond the present stage of your life and relationship; never thought about marrying and having his kids at some point in your life, then, you’re not that into them.
When it’s real, these plans just pop up on their own, and they give you butterflies in the stomach.
5. YOU CAN’T GET YOURSELF TO INTRODUCE HIM TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY
When you’re in love, and you know it, you are so excited; you want to announce it to the whole world, and all who care to know. You cannot hide it when it’s genuine, and that is because the excitement it brings is uncontrollable. You’d want to take him to your friends, siblings and parents because you know you want it to go beyond what it is right now. So, if you are in one of those relationships where you are not proud enough of your man to show him to the special people in your life, it is the wrong one.
6. HE’S TOO SELFISH
Like I said before now, relationships are about give and take. One person cannot enjoy all the privileges without returning the favour. You must be ready to give just as much as you get, in order to keep a happy relationship. If your partner is the type that likes to put himself and his feelings ahead of yours all the time, he’s wrong for you. You cannot be the one to visit his parents’ all the time while he gives excuses as to why he can’t be there at your parents’. There has to be a balance for it to work, and if he’s not willing to even things out, he’s not the one you should be giving your time.
Love is a feeling worth experiencing, but you cannot feel it unless it’s with the right person. It is my hope that you find yours. Cheers!
Drama