A lot of emphasis has been placed on marrying the right person. Many people are looking for the right person for them, with the belief that when they are with the right person, then they’d have a wonderful marriage.
Being with the right partner could lead to a beautiful relationship and marriage, but it isn’t a guarantee. You can be with that right person and have the wrong relationship/marriage.
These tips will explain further:
1. WHEN YOU DON’T RECOGNISE THAT YOU ARE WITH THE RIGHT PERSON
First, you must recognise and appreciate that you are actually with the right person for you. If you are with the right partner, and you fail to recognise how right that person is for you, and you keep looking at other relationship and marriages, then your marriage with that (right) partner will definitely feel wrong.
2. YOU KEEP DOING THE WRONG THINGS
Right and wrong can never mix; you can’t do the wrong things and expect the right results. This same principle can be applied in your relationship and marriage. When you keep doing the wrong things to your partner, when you keep being ungrateful, when you are unappreciative, when you are abusive — then you shouldn’t expect that marriage to go in the right direction, even when you are with the right person.
3. YOU FAIL TO BUILD UNDERSTANDING
For two people to work together, there has to be a form of understanding, and when that understanding is missing, then everything will feel wrong. Understanding is very important if you must reach your desired heights; the greater the understanding, the more the marriage will feel right.
4. YOU GET NONCHALANT
A lot of people have that partner who’s loving, faithful and committed; that partner who just wants to put a smile on their faces at all times. They could then become so used to the love and affection, and then get nonchalant. Nonchalance would ruin your marriage, no matter how right the partner you’re with is.
5. YOU AREN’T READY
Marriage requires a lot of readiness for it to be successful; you have to be mentally, emotionally and financially ready before you step into that union called marriage. Also, you have to be mature, know how to handle conflicts, know when to let issues slide, know how to compromise etc. When you aren’t ready to do all these, then your marriage will suffer even if you’re with the right person.
6. YOU KEEP MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES
We are all humans and we’re imperfect beings — meaning, we must make mistakes. However, when you keep making the same mistakes and you never learn from them, you are bound to frustrate the love and care of that partner who’s seemingly right for you.
While it’s important to be with the right person, that’s not all that matters. You can still be with the right person and have a failed relationship/marriage.
Shawn