“Let’s just be friends”, “I think we are better off as friends”, “I don’t want to ruin our friendship”. If you have gotten this as an answer when you asked for a romantic relationship with someone you truly like, it means you’ve just been friend zoned.
Being friend zoned means having a mismatch in emotions with someone you want a relationship with — and a lot of men suffer this.
Women also get friend zoned; a lady could like a particular guy but he wouldn’t want more than friendship with her.
Why do people get friend zoned?
1. YOU WEREN’T DEEMED ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
This is probably the main reason people get friend zoned. For you to like someone, it means there is a level of attraction to that person — and more often than not, physical attraction plays a major role. If that person you admire doesn’t find you attractive enough then you would most likely fall into the friend zone category.
2. POOR COMMUNICATION
Another reason people get friend zoned is poor communication. Many people who end up being friend zoned do not communicate with that prospective partner in a way that would open up chance for a romantic affair. How you communicate with that man or woman you admire would go a long way in determining whether or not you get friend zoned.
3. YOU TOOK TOO LONG
Sometimes feelings die after a while, sometimes the spark fade if nothing is done on time and sometimes some other person might come up to spoil your party. When you take so long in making a move or relaying your intentions, you might pass a message of friendship and get friend zoned soon enough.
4. YOU WERE BEING TOO NICE
Truth be told, sometimes being too nice might not be an attractive mating quality. When you are seen as a nice person, you only sell friendship; most people tend to need more than niceness as regarding romantic relationships — and this is why the nice ones get friend zoned.
5. YOU WERE AFRAID
Not every relationship partners start out as friends; most relationship partners meet up newly and start a relationship afterwards in the heat of the moment — when the spark is still new. When you are afraid and uncertain, this could make you toe the path of friendship rather than romance, and when you choose to say how you feel, it might already be too late.
6. SOCIOLOGICAL DIFFERENCES
People tend to be attracted to their kinds; that is, people in the same educational and family background, the same class and social status, the same level of attraction and the lot. When you fall outside their perceived background, they unconsciously deem you as just friends.
These reasons account for why people get friend zoned. It hardly gets beyond these six.