Washing your dirty linens in the open is not a good thing, and there are certain things in your marriage that should just be kept private between you and your partner.
What are some of those marriage secrets people share that they shouldn’t?
1. YOUR SEX LIFE
Your sex life is an intimate thing between you and your partner and should remain so. There’s no point discussing it with friends and anyone who cares to listen. Is it good? Is it bad? That should remain between the two of you, except in cases where you need help and should seek the help of professionals.
Sex is part of your private life and there should be a line drawn when discussing with people close to you.
2. THE DETAILS OF YOUR MARRIAGE
A lot of people are in the habit of discussing their everyday marriage life with others. You don’t have to share everything about your marriage; you must learn to be discrete and understand that the marriage is between you and your partner. Sharing every detail means you are inviting a third party to your union.
3. YOUR DISAGREEMENTS
Don’t be in a hurry to rush to a friend or family member to pour out the disagreement you had with your partner. Be mature enough to meditate on it and speak to your partner about it and then try to reach a compromise. Find an ally in your partner and not an outsider.
4. YOUR PARTNER’S FLAWS
I get surprised when I see people talk about their partner’s flaws and bad habits in public; you not only make your partner look stupid when you do this, but you make yourself look silly and ignorant. You lose your respect in people’s eyes when you are such a person.
5. YOUR MONEY TROUBLES
If you are having money troubles in your marriage, it’s not an excuse to go about telling everyone who cares to listen. You’d lose your value in people’s eyes when you do this. Speak to financial advisers and people who can help; don’t just go about crying for help.
6. THINGS YOUR PARTNER WON’T BE HAPPY TO HEAR YOU TALK ABOUT
Anything your partner wouldn’t be happy to hear you say in public should be totally avoided; if you know your partner won’t be comfortable with it then it ought to remain a secret and shouldn’t be exposed.
Are you in the habit of putting your marriage in the spotlight or saying things you shouldn’t? The time to change is now.
ViV