Everyone makes mistakes, because no one is perfect, but forgiveness sometimes depends on how it is tendered. Some people do not know how to say ‘I’m sorry’ the right way, and for that, they usually do not get the forgiveness they need.
If you’re going to ever apologise, you should be sure to avoid the following mistakes.
DON’T EXPECT IMMEDIATE FORGIVENESS
Depending on who you wronged and the nature of the wrong, forgiveness can take a while to come. So you must understand these, and not expect the person to immediately accept your apology, and move on.
Sometimes, we allow ego and pride get in the way of our thinking. When you wrong someone, and you desire forgiveness, the right thing to do is apologise immediately you realise your were wrong. Allowing it take time can make matters worse.
DON’T TRADE BLAMES
If you accept you’re wrong and you want to apologise, and move on, forget trading blames, even if the other person is wrong. That would only make matters drag on for longer. The moment you choose to apologise, it means you want to let go.
DON’T TRY TO JUSTIFY YOUR ACTIONS
I have heard people say, “I’m sorry, but”. That is all in a bid to justify their actions. If you want to go to the next level, and forget the issue – whatever it is, you have to be the bigger person, and allow bygones be.
SENDING IT IN A TEXT
Unless you didn’t wrong them physically, and you’re very far away from their location, there’s no reason you should apologise via text. It’s more effective when you go to them, look them in the eye, and say you’re sorry.
DON’T LIE ABOUT ANYTHING
Most people try to cover up lies by telling more lies. That is only risking complicating things the more. When you wrong someone, it’s best you come clean, and say things the way they are.