A nagging wife or girlfriend can drive you out of your mind if something isn’t done to arrest the situation. Most guys (single guys especially) are always quick to think that the only solution is to cut her out of their life, but that isn’t really the best way. Women always nag for a reason either because they feel ignored or unattended to. Understanding this is key to getting her to minimize her nagging.
Nagging is actually anger; so it can be controlled. Here are a few ways I think you can get your nagging wife or girlfriend under control.
1. LISTEN WHEN SHE TALKS
If you’re very observant, you’d notice that half the time women nag, it’s mostly because they feel ignored. Women require attention always, so the minute they think you’re falling short in that department, they may resort to nagging to vent their displeasure. Listen to what she has to say to you, don’t keep putting her off when she wants your time. If she tells you she wants to talk about something, do not postpone the discussion; talk about it, and get it over with.
2. ASK HER WHAT IT IS SHE REALLY WANTS
Sometimes, when she nags about something, it is because she’s worried about something else, so call her, sit her down and ask her what’s troubling her mind. You’ll be surprised to learn that it’s a different matter altogether. Maybe she just wants to hang out or probably needs more of your time.
3. DO NOT ARGUE WITH HER
Most guys think the best way to get her to shut up is by talking back at her while she’s in her mode. Wrong guys! Talking back or attempting to argue will only fuel her anger and cause her to nag even more. When she begins to go on and on about something, try to calm her down by with a nice, sweet tone. If she keeps talking, leave and return after a few hours; she would have calmed down by then, and you can thrash out your issues more civilly.
4. HELP WITH SOME OF THE CHORES
We know you’re ‘the man of the house, and you probably bring in all the money, but come on, you can’t leave all the chores in the house her to do while you watch TV and eat, and expect her to be happy with you. You have to assist her with some of the chores to show that you at least do love her. Even if you have kids to do the chores, your wife or girlfriend would appreciate it if you did some. That’s how understanding men act. Help clean the house, or mow the lawn or wash the cars maybe; just do something to care and support.
5. STOP MAKING PROMISES YOU CAN’T KEEP
Try not to promise her things you can’t do because when you fail to abide by them, she may resort to nagging to get you to fulfil them. When she asks for something, if you can do it, tell her when you will, and if you can’t, make her understand the request is beyond you. Don’t go saying you’ll buy her the world when you know you can’t.
Finally, nobody is perfect, nagging is bad, but that doesn’t make a nagging woman any less of a person (as long as she isn’t violent). If you really care about her, you can help her be better or reduce the habit to the barest minimum.
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