People fall out of love, not because they planned to but a series of events in their marriage gradually killed the love that once existed. Love doesn’t just die on its own; it’s when you don’t feed it, that it dies off.
The love in many marriages today dies off just after a year or even less of marriage. If couples aren’t careful, they could only be existing and not necessarily loving each other after five years of being married.
Love shouldn’t be underestimated; love is actually very important in your marriage and this is how you and your partner can both bring the love back.
1. WHEN YOU START COMMUNICATING
It would be easy for love to die off when couples stop communicating; communication is an important part of a relationship and it helps foster understanding among partners. For every successful marriage out there, communication is a big part of it, and for every unsuccessful marriage, a lack of communication is present.
2. WHEN YOU START DOING THINGS FOR EACH OTHER
A lot of the times, most partners focus on themselves, what they really want and not their marriage or their spouse. No marriage can survive this way and you should know that love isn’t selfish. One simple way to bring back the love in your marriage is to start doing things for each other daily. When you do this, you plant a seed of love in your marriage, and the longer you do it, the bigger that seed grows.
3. WHEN YOU START DOING THE SIMPLE THINGS
The simple things like saying “I’m sorry”, appreciating each other, saying “thank you”, asking each other how your day went, helping each other out, cuddling and kissing. These are the simple things, but they leave big prints in your marriage; simple things like these shouldn’t be taken for granted and would make both partners feel loved and appreciated.
4. FOCUS LESS ON NEGATIVE ENERGY
Negative energy could be acts like nagging, unnecessary complains, being unforgiving, being intolerable, harbouring grudges, unnecessary fights and abuses — all these are negative energy and if you let them in your marriage, they would destroy every good thing that exists in your home.
5. HAVE BEAUTIFUL MOMENTS TOGETHER
I couldn’t have left this out; go on dates with each other, have fun moments together, do things that you both love, it’s important that you find time within your busy schedules to have beautiful and happy moments together. Things like these wouldn’t only bring back the love but would also double it.
Bringing back the love in your marriage wouldn’t work by just wishful saying; you should be ready to do the work involved and not just talk the talk.
It would even be better if you don’t let the love die in the first place by doing all these from the onset.
Shawn