Marriage isn’t a do or die affair, not everyone is meant to be married. While some of us are, some others aren’t. That said, a lot of people think that with patience, you can always find the right person, but it’s not exactly true. Sometimes, the right people may turn out wrong, and the wrong ones right. So I think the key is going into marriage with a certain mindset. Just know what you want, go for it, but be prepared for anything.
Anyway, take a look at these important things I think you should know as you prepare for marriage.
PAY MORE ATTENTION TO YOUR HEAD THAN YOU DO YOUR HEART
It’s okay to be in love and all, but beyond that, it’s important to make sure the person you’re in love with is very much in love with you. This is the only way to ensure your happiness and joy in that marriage in the long run.
FIGHTING DOESN’T ALWAYS SOLVE PROBLEMS
Unless you’re about to fight a high school bully, then there’s absolutely no need for it. Fighting would only make things more complex and difficult, and perhaps drive your partner farther to the edge. Always talk. Talk about your insecurities. Talk about your grievances; don’t try to be too confrontational, it never ends well.
EARN YOUR OWN. DO NOT BE TOO DEPENDENT
Nobody wants to get married to a liability. Those days, if they ever existed are far gone. Men want a woman who can support the marriage, women want the same, so don’t go into marriage thinking, ‘oh, he’s the solution to all my financial problems’, you’ll only destroy your worth, and cause more issues than not to the marriage. EARN your own money. Start a hustle, get a job, anything, but don’t be without a source of income.
GET AS MANY CHILDREN AS YOU CAN CATER FOR
Some people go into marriage wanting to have children for others around them, and not themselves. It’s about you, don’t forget that, not about your mother or father. Even if your partner wants a ridiculous number of kids, don’t accept. If you disagree long enough, they’ll come to their senses. Have kids you can take care of, so you don’t suffer for it.
RESPECT YOUR PARTNER
Woman, man, it doesn’t matter. Your partner is your partner, and they deserve some respect. Belittling them is belittling yourself, don’t forget that. The more respect you accord a person, the more drawn and happier they are with you.
Marriage can be very bumpy, but it wouldn’t be so terrible if you are prepared for it.