The reason why a lot of relationships fail today is mostly because of the lofty expectations and wrong impressions people have generally about them. We tend to sometimes think that relationships are meant to be rosy and smooth, but it isn’t so. There’s no such thing as that, and acknowledging this reality will go a mile in helping you have a lasting relationship. We need to understand this, and along with that, accept a few other truths about relationships and dating; including…
UNDERSTAND THAT NO ONE IS FLAWLESS…YOUR PARTNER WON’T BE
Not a single human is without negatives to their person. We are built that way as humans, and we must understand that too, if we want to have a smooth relationship with other people. You must understand that your partner has their flaws, just as they have strengths. You have to be ready to love them regardless. I’m not advising that you settle for less, I’m only saying, look for someone whose positives outshine the negatives in their person.
THERE’LL BE ROCKY DAYS
Of course, you’re dating a human with flaws, so what do you really expect? There’ll be days when they allow their bad sides overwhelm them, and piss you off, and drive you crazy, even make you wish you didn’t settle for them, but then, it’s one of the many challenges that come with dating, you must be ready to see out that phase.
KNOW THAT THEY HAVE OTHER PEOPLE IN THEIR LIFE TOO
Oftentimes, we are too greedy to share our partner with their family and friends because we think we deserve to have them all to ourselves, and nobody else should. This sometimes, drives a relationship down the disaster route. You have to know and accept the reality that they have a family who’ll want to spend time with them too. They have friends that will hang out with them too. Attention will be divided sometimes, just know that, and you’re happy.
PMS IS REAL, GUYS
If you’re a man in a relationship, and you don’t know what it means, you’re not doing your homework well enough. I’ll tell you though, so you are informed. PMS is an abbreviation for Premenstrual syndrome. It’s a period that comes in a woman’s life right before Menstruation hits. It’s characterized by cramps, headache, and above all, mood swings. During the period, lots of fights are likely to happen due to mood swings, and that’s why you need to be in the know about it, so you handle it better when it comes. As a man, you should know your woman’s cycle too because it helps with managing PMS better.
Personally, I didn’t know about PMS, my woman angrily had me Google it, and the moment I knew, I understood her tantrums and mood swings better. So it’s important to understand certain things because the more you understand, the less likely you are to presume.
I genuinely wish you happiness in your relationship as you take note of the aforementioned points.
Drama