Just as there are bad habits, there are also bad relationship habits, and if care isn’t taken these habits would not only ruin your relationship, but could make your partner get tired of having the relationship with you.
Sometimes, people put some of these acts in their relationships without really knowing, but they are bad and should be avoided at all cost.
Are you guilty of any of these habits below?
1. COMPARING YOUR PARTNER TO SOMEONE ELSE
This is unfair; your partner is your partner and someone else is someone else. You shouldn’t compare your partner with someone else, this would only hurt your partner’s ego.
2. COMPARING YOUR PARTNER TO AN EX
While comparing your partner to someone else might be bad enough, comparing your partner to an ex is even worse. If your ex was that perfect, you would be with them. It’s more than unfair to compare your partner to an ex.
3. LIES
Whether they are white lies or black lies, a lie is a lie. Your partner deserves to know the truth always, and it’s a very bad habit to continually feed your partner with lies.
4. KEEPING SCORE
Some people have this terrible habit of keeping score of their partner’s flaws and mistakes. It’s unfair when you keep reminding your partner of his or her sins and previous mistakes.
5. NOT FORGIVING
While keeping score is a bad act, not forgiving is another dangerous habit that could hamper the growth and success of your relationship.
6. JEALOUSY
Jealousy is another trait that would hurt your relationship too. Being unnecessarily jealous is an unhealthy habit that could push you into doing meaningless things.
7. BLAME GAME
“It’s all your fault”; are you one of those who can’t do without this statement? Playing blame games with your partner or constantly blaming everything on your partner is a bad habit that you should quit today. Partners who always put up this act tend to portray an image of being perfect — and we all know that nobody is perfect.
8. FIGHTING IN PUBLIC
Some people like to take their fights and misunderstanding with their partner public. This is like disgracing your partner, and no one loves this. If you have an issue with your partner, sort it in-house rather than taking it to the streets.
9. ALWAYS CRITICISING YOUR PARTNER’S FAMILY
Everyone loves their family; they are a group you have been with almost your whole life. Married couples are the most guilty of criticising their partner’s family, and it’s a very terrible habit they should desist from. A habit like this would create conflict, hatred and enmity between you and your partner.
10. NOT BEING APPRECIATIVE
If you don’t appreciate your partner then you don’t deserve to be appreciated. Your partner ought to be appreciated for the roles they play in your life. Learn to appreciate your partner for even the little things they do.
11. BLOWING THINGS OUT OF PROPORTION
Don’t be the kind of partner who lets little things escalate. Stop quarrelling or fighting over little things. Learn how to sort out those little things.
12. UNNECESSARILY PROLONGING AN ARGUMENT
Yes, it’s normal to argue with your partner, and it’s even healthy sometimes. But it’s a bad habit when you keep prolonging an argument.
13. GETTING EASILY PROVOKED
Do you get easily provoked? Learn to calm your nerves rather than get angry at the slightest of things.
14. KEEPING GRUDGES
This is another common relationship habit that shouldn’t exist. When you always hold a grudge against your partner, it becomes almost impossible for the relationship to grow. Learn to move on, especially if your partner has apologised. Always holding a grudge against your partner can be really exhausting and tiring on the side of your partner.
These 14 bad relationship habits shouldn’t be a part of your relationship.
Shawn