I would never forget a funny meme which I once saw, describing how difficult it is to understand a woman and how easier it is to understand a man. The meme pointed out that to understand a woman, you need to read a book about them ten times the size of an encyclopedia — now, that’s too much.
It’s rare to find a man who totally understands his lady and knows how to treat her accordingly.
Are women really that hard to understand? I guess not.
A huge mistake most men make is thinking that all women are the same; no fellas, every woman is different and unique in her own way, and this article would show you just how to understand your woman better.
1. BE OBSERVANT
One reason why most men can’t understand their women is because their minds are occupied with other things. When you pay close attention to your lady and you are observant of the tiniest details, it would be very easy to understand her. Paying close attention to anyone really would teach you so many things you didn’t know about them.
2. KNOW WHAT SHE ALWAYS COMPLAIN ABOUT
Many men keep saying “my wife is always angry”. Well, I don’t think anyone gets angry for no particular reason. Know what irritates and infuriates her, know what she’s always complaining about — you would pick a thing or two from listening to her complain. A lot of men tend to repeat what their women complain of regularly, without really knowing that they are crossing the woman’s path.
3. SEX
You need to understand her sexually. Know what turns her on and what turns her off. You should also understand her different moods towards sex. Some emotional problems like problems in the relationship, losing a loved one, family problems and even stress can affect her sexually — you ought to know this.
4. BE CAREFUL OF WHAT YOU SAY
When having a quarrel, be careful what you say. Women rarely forget things; even science has proven this. Never say what would affect your relationship simply because you are angry.
5. HER PERIOD
Never take her menstrual cycle for granted. When she’s on her flow, you should be more tolerant of her; hormone fluctuations, mood swing, physical pain, lack of appetite or even increased appetite can make her act differently. So be more tolerant.
6. HONESTY IS THE BEST WAY TO WIN HER TRUST
Women appreciate honesty; this is the best and probably the only way to win her trust.
7. NEVER TALK ABOUT OTHER WOMEN YOU HAVE BEEN WITH
Except she brings this up, never talk about your ex or other women you have been with — she would feel jealous or even think that you still have secret feelings for them.
8. SHE WANTS TO FEEL BEAUTIFUL
Women spend times ten or even more than the amount men spend on beauty. There is no secret to this, women want to feel beautiful; she wants to be seen as beautiful by her man, and she wants him to have eyes for her only.
Tell her she’s beautiful, compliment her always and show her that you mean what you say.
9. SHE WANTS TO FEEL EMOTIONALLY SECURE
Emotional security is another thing for many women. She wants to feel that you truly love and care for her, and that you would be there for her always. She doesn’t want to feel threatened by another woman.
10. SHE WANTS TO BE LISTENED TO
Sometimes, she just wants you to listen; to understand how she feels and to understand what’s going through her mind.
Let your attention be focused on her during a conversation; that’s how she knows that you are listening.
11. IF SHE SEEMS UPSET, ASK
Sometimes, she gives you that worried and upset face so that you can ask what the matter is. Trust me, she would feel bad if you don’t ask or feel worse if you don’t even notice.
12. ALWAYS SHOW HER YOU LOVE HER
She wants to know that you would always love her, no matter what. Show her some affectionate gestures, whether you are alone or not — that’s what makes her feel special.
13. RESPECT
Treat her with respect. Respect her feelings, respect her ideologies even when you don’t agree with her; respect her as a woman and respect her for the role she plays in your life.
If you can understand her better, then your relationship with her would definitely be smooth sailing.
ViV