A lot of people live in shyness almost all through their lives, without realising that there is an escape route from shyness.
Shyness can make you uncomfortable in social gatherings, shyness can make you tense especially when you have to make a speech or presentation and shyness can also make you unable to approach someone you really do want to talk to.
So who’s ready to kick out shyness today?
These tips below would truly help.
1. FIGURE OUT WHAT MAKES YOU SHY
To overcome that feeling of shyness, you ought to know what really triggers you to be shy; it could be a crowd of people, being with people you feel are superior to you, talking to someone you admire etc. It’s important to know what makes you shy in the first place.
2. MAKE A LIST OF IT AND TRY TO CONQUER IT
Write down those things that actually make you shy and try to work on them little by little. For example, if you are shy of talking to someone you find attractive, then you can start by talking to someone you don’t really find attractive.
3. PRACTICE SPEAKING WITH YOURSELF
Shyness is an absence of confidence, but it can be thrown away. Practice speaking with yourself; stand in front of a mirror and imagine a group of people, a huge crowd or that person you find attractive, and practice talking to the group you are shy of while imagining they are there.
4. NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO ANYONE
You are only going to make yourself feel terrible when you start the comparison game; comparing yourself to others would only kill your confidence.
5. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF
One of the easiest ways to overcome shyness is by being proud of yourself and having self-love for yourself. Learning to love yourself is an important way you can overcome shyness.
6. LEARN TO BREATHE WHEN ANXIOUS
Taking deep breaths when anxious can help generate a feeling of calmness. When faced with anxiety, learn to inhale and exhale slowly.
7. DO NOT LEAVE
Many people leave uncomfortable situations when they are shy, but this would only worsen your feeling of shyness and kill your confidence the more. When you face a shy situation head-on without running away, you build a sense of confidence within you.
8. PRACTICE BEING IN THAT UNCOMFORTABLE SITUATION
Always picture yourself in that situation you deem uncomfortable, and try to overcome it mentally. Fighting shyness has a lot to do with the mind.
9. IDENTIFY YOUR STRENGTHS
Shyness can even make you lose consciousness of your strengths. Focus on your strengths and take pride in it; this would give you a sense of confidence.
10. VISUALISE CONFIDENCE
Practice seeing yourself as a bold, confident and happy person. Practice, like they say, makes perfect. Visualise yourself as who you want to be, and that would help build your confidence to who you want to be. Nothing is impossible.
11. PRACTICE GOOD POSTURE
Having a good posture would make you seem confident even when you aren’t. So, having a good posture is an important way to building confidence.
12. PLACE YOUR ATTENTION ELSEWHERE
What you think can have an effect on you. Before a public speaking, if your attention is focused on you failing then you make things harder for yourself. Place your attention on a totally different thing; place your attention on something that would even make you smile and relax.
People become shy not because they want to, but because of a negative evaluation of themselves, being overly conscious of themselves and paying too much attention to their weaknesses rather than their strengths when with people.
Jake