Cheating is a terrible act in a relationship; it’s a betrayal of love and trust, and could kill the relationship.
While cheating is bad, hurtful and could harm your relationship, there are so many other things couples do that could be as bad as cheating.
1. LIES AND DECEIT
Telling your partner lies, and being deceitful is just another form of cheating and betrayal. You betray your partner when you lie to them and deceive them. Whether you get caught or not doesn’t matter; the act in itself shows that you are being unfair to your partner and you are hurting the relationship.
2. BEING EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE
Being emotionally unavailable is just as bad as cheating; you cheat your partner when you are not available emotionally for them. Your partner doesn’t deserve to be left out, and that’s what you do when you are emotionally unavailable for them.
3. HARBOURING SECRET GRUDGES
Couples harbour secret grudges and hate in their relationships, but this is bad. Secret grudges poison the mind, and when the mind becomes poisoned, the love and everything surrounding it would also become poisoned.
4. JEALOUSY
Jealousy is also unhealthy for your relationship. Jealousy would make you suspicious even when there isn’t a reason to be, and jealousy could push you to do strange things and act in strange ways.
5. MANIPULATION
Being a manipulative partner is just as bad as being a cheating partner. A manipulative partner would make the relationship just about them, would try to have their way or trick their partners into going against their will. Manipulation shouldn’t be found in a relationship, but it’s found in many, and step by step you keep being unfair to your partner and destroying your relationship when you are a manipulative partner.
6. WITHHOLDING YOUR LOVE AND AFFECTION
This is another common scenario that’s found in a relationship, but one that shouldn’t be. A relationship should be about love and affection, and your partner deserves your love and affection always. You cheat your partner when you withhold love and affection.
7. NOT COMMUNICATING
If you are a regular reader of this website, you would understand the importance of communication in a relationship. No relationship can survive without communication. When you withhold communication from your partner, you withhold so many other things that would make the relationship better.
8. FLIRTING WITH ANOTHER PERSON
Flirting with another person when you are in a relationship is unfair to your partner and could create certain negative feelings such as jealousy and lack of trust. Flirting might not be cheating, but it creates negative emotions.
9. REFUSING TO CHANGE
If you have a terrible habit that’s always causing problems between you and your partner, and you still don’t want to change, that’s as terrible as cheating. This would cause continuous problems in your relationship, and your relationship would never grow when you do this.
10. NOT PLAYING YOUR ROLE
For a relationship to be successful, two people have to play their roles. But a relationship suffers most of the times because one partner or even both partners fail to play their role. If your partner is playing his/her role and you aren’t, then you are being unfair and hurting your relationship.
Cheating is bad, but it isn’t the only thing that could hurt the love in a relationship or cause betrayal. These ten acts are just as terrible as cheating; they may look smaller but they come with same heavy effect as cheating.
Shawn