7 WRONG REASONS THAT MAKE PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE

People fall in love for so many wrong reasons and they have no clue about how fake their love is. One question people fail to ask themselves is “would I still love this man/woman if he/she didn’t possess this or that?” If this question is asked before marrying someone, divorce rate would be extremely low.

I don’t have a million and one story to tell about love but when I’m in love I definitely know that I’m in love. You want to know how; it’s very simple. I ask myself a simple and honest question; “what do I love about this girl?” That question would tell you a lot on whether you love someone or not. I know you don’t understand what I mean. Well, read on to the end and you would fully understand what I’m saying.

We have previously brought you 9 signs that you are truly in love and you need to check that out because they are important. Well, I’d give you seven wrong reasons that would make you fall in love. And note, these are real life principles; it doesn’t end by just reading them.

1. PEOPLE FALL FOR BEAUTY

When you fall in love just because someone is beautiful then that’s a sign that you are falling for the wrong reason. Beauty is just a side attraction; it shouldn’t be a priority for falling in love. Beauty is something that can fade off or maybe you can even see someone more beautiful than the person you love; so do you now fall again for the other person? You can get tired of beauty; beauty would never get your relationship anywhere during trying times which would eventually come.

2. WEALTH

This is normal, it is everywhere; women are attracted to men with wealth, the richer a man, the more women get attracted to him. It’s every woman’s dream to get married to a rich man; so many jump at that chance without knowing. Men are also not left out as so many men these days marry for money. The saying that money can’t buy love isn’t far from reality. Besides, we have seen cases of multi-millionaires go bankrupt. So if that’s the case in your relationship, do you then fall out of love?

3. LONELINESS

Yea, this is one very weird reason people fall in love. They are afraid of being lonely; especially when they see that their friends are in relationships. Females are the one that are mostly culpable of this act. It’s just like you are faking up love to deceive yourself with the illusion that you are in love. Relationships like this only have one outcome- break-up.

4. PHYSIQUE

This is mostly done by guys, they get carried away by a lady’s physique that they term their feelings love. A lady with a good physique can be very attractive really but a love borne out of being attracted to mere physical attribute is one of short sightedness and would most definitely not last.

5. PRESSURE TO MARRY AND HAVE KIDS

This really is predominant in some cultures where marriage and kids are important before they term you a complete man or woman. Due to this pressure, the mind-set becomes susceptible to fall for the next guy or woman that shows up and all of a sudden talks of love is all over the place and wedding bells is the next thing. We should be careful what we pressure our minds with because our minds can fill our head with that illusion which we so desire to live in.

6. CAUGHT UP IN THE MOMENT

Moments can lead to so many things and we think we are in love all of a sudden. Almost every one of us have had relationships which we entered just because we were caught up in the moment and only realise that we made a mistake when we are already in that relationship. Moments can be crazy; never confuse those moments for love.

7. WHAT PEOPLE REPRESENT

This one is really common in today’s world. People fall in love just because of what someone represents. Meaning if that person wasn’t what he or she was, they wouldn’t have fallen in love with that person. You doubt me? Take a look at celebrities, they only date and marry fellow celebrities, kids of politicians also get attracted to kids of fellow politicians; it’s all about the affluent mixing up with the affluent. That is the reason why their marriage and relationships don’t last. They are attracted to the wrong things; they are attracted to what people represent forgetting that what matters is the ‘who’ of a person not the ‘what’. ‘Who they really are’ catches up with them in that relationship and time makes them realise that love is not a lover of status.

Now back to what I was saying in my introduction on how I know that I’m really in love; the question I ask myself is “what do I love about this girl?” Whenever I start listing out things that I love about her like her eyes, smile, beauty, the way she walks then I just conclude that I’m not really in love but I just like that person a lot and I have my reasons.

When I can’t really explain what makes me love that lady, I begin to tell myself that it seems like I’m really in love. Let me break it down for you; when you love a lady because of her smile, what happens when she’s angry; if you love her beauty, what happens if she has a scar?

But when you love someone with so much joy in you that you can’t explain why, then know that you are getting there; you just might be in love. Not that you won’t love other qualities in the person but when it becomes your major attraction, then don’t term it love because true love is never short sighted.

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Shawn