In Africa, it’s a general consensus for everyone to get married once they come of age. Marriage is more like a must; it completes the chain of self-fulfillment if I may say.<\/p>\n
At a certain stage, parents pressure their children especially the female ones to get married; some are even ridiculed for the fact that they aren’t married.<\/p>\n
This brings us to the question “is marriage really a must?” Is there really fulfillment in marriage and nonfulfillment outside it?<\/p>\n
This is another Elcrema Sunday Love Special, and the topic for today is; is marriage really a must?<\/p>\n
I would be baring my mind on this one with Drama and this is definitely another educating one in our Love Special series.<\/p>\n
Is marriage really a must?<\/p>\n
Read Drama’s opinion on the matter<\/p>\n
DRAMA<\/b><\/p>\n
You ask, \u201cIs marriage a must?\u201d I ask, is sex a must? Because in everything we do as humans, there is freewill. We are always presented with at least, two options in our dealings in life; whichever one we chose, we get to live with. We have the right to either have children or not, we have the right to either have sex or not, so why can\u2019t we also chose not to marry if that\u2019s what pleases us as individuals?<\/p>\n
Marriage is no doubt, a good thing because even the bible says, \u201cHe that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtains favor from the lord\u201d, but this doesn\u2019t mean that everyone has to get married. Marriage is no ordinary relationship that people can jump in and out of randomly or at will; marriage is sacred, it is special and so requires that adequate care is taken in making the choice of whom to be with. It is only here in Africa that people make a big deal out of marriage. When a person \u2018comes of age\u2019, he is unnecessarily put under pressure to get married, even when they do not desire to do so. This is wrong because it can lead one into making a wrong choice and one they\u2019ll live to regret.\u00a0 We Africans see marriage as the ultimate thing a person can do in his\/her life and I find this very amusing. I was listening to the radio one day when I heard someone saying that marriage is the pride of a woman. You can imagine my disappointment at the statement, how could an educated person say something so empty and unreasonable? If marriage is the pride of a woman, what happens to personal accomplishments and goals? There are women who struggle so hard and sacrifice almost everything to achieve other goals like Degrees and their dream businesses\/jobs—is there no pride in such achievements? It is people like that that have kept Africa in the Stone Age through such misinforming statements.<\/p>\n
Like I said earlier, marriage is a good thing, but only if you desire it. You do not have to get married to feel accomplished as an individual, there are other ways you can achieve that feeling. Some people get married just because they want to have children, now, what happens when the kids finally come? They start cheating on their spouses? If children are what you really want, you can have them without going on the Altar to take an oath. There should be a clear definition of choices, so as to all the regrets and tears that follow a wrong decision. Marriage should be because you feel completed by a person, and you want to spend the rest of your life with them, not because you want to have children or because you want to fit into the image the society has created for you. I was chatting with a friend on BBM (we were talking about the significance of marriage in modern African Societies), and I told her, \u201cThere is no law written down anywhere that a woman must get married, you own your life, and you decide what to do with yourself. If you desire to get married, do so when you feel the time is right\u2026with the right person. And if you do not find the right person for you, go about living your life normally; be happy and enjoy your life. Do not let the society or anyone put you under unnecessary pressure because at the end of the day, you are on your own\u201d. I want more people to embrace this thought pattern, including the male folks; don\u2019t rush into marriage because you\u2019re the only son, and your parents want you to keep the family tree alive. You own yourself, and you do what you please with yourself. Freewill is the greatest gift humanity has; do not sacrifice it for anything or anyone\u2026not even for your parents.<\/p>\n
Click below to see Shawn’s opinion<\/b><\/b><\/p>\n
SHAWN<\/b><\/p>\n
I won’t lie, I love relationships, I get this feel-good emotion whenever I see couples in a sweet relationship; it’s lovely seeing people in love; and that’s just ordinary relationship, talk more of marriage.<\/p>\n
Marriage tops it all; when two people decide to commit themselves in a bond that should last forever, and find happiness in each other, it’s a great thing.<\/p>\n
No one really wants to be alone; no one wants to get to an old age without that special somebody; so in that sense it’s more like marriage is a fulfillment.<\/p>\n
But is marriage really fulfilling? Is marriage really a must? People who have faced divorce or who aren’t enjoying their marriage won’t agree with all the importance attached to it. But there are also people who have not just found fulfillment but great fulfillment in marriage, and they would tell you that there is nothing better than marriage. Back home, the craze for marriage has made young ladies in their teens and early twenties to rush into marriage as well.<\/p>\n
My take on this is quite different. To me, marriage means different things to different people; everyone have what they want and what they expect from marriage; to some people marriage is a must and to some it isn’t, you should be the better judge of what you want in life, and what you think would make you happy; if you feel you would find happiness and fulfillment in marriage then so be it, and if you feel you are not ready for such huge commitment, then so be it.<\/p>\n
The most important thing to note is that you are responsible for your happiness, so you shouldn’t let someone else determine what would make you happy; it’s better to be alone than to rush into a marriage that would make you unhappy. But if you see that someone that you know you can’t live without, what are you waiting for?<\/p>\n
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This is where we call it a wrap for today\u2019s edition of Sunday Love Special, hope you enjoyed it and more importantly, hope you gained a thing or two from this one.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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