It’s another Sunday and it’s time for another edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special. Today’s topic is a very dicey one and one that needs caution.<\/p>\n
Dating a friend’s ex is controversial enough but dating your best friend is even way more controversial.<\/p>\n
This promises to be an interesting topic as Drama and Shawn go head to head on this one, and they have slightly different views on the matter.<\/p>\n
DRAMA’S VIEW<\/b><\/p>\n
Asking me if I can date my best friend\u2019s ex is like asking if I can date my brother\u2019s ex because that\u2019s what it is. Friendships exist in levels and there is a level of friendship you have with a person, and you consider him your blood, your brother\u2026 Imagine dating your brother\u2019s Ex, or to put it more plainly, imagine dating the same woman your brother has dated and moved on from. It is wrong in whatever sense you wanna look at it\u2026<\/p>\n
Best friends are like brothers and they live (or should live) by a code, including not dating or having any sort of emotional attachment to the same women, whether or not they\u2019re in a serious relationship with them. This is borne out of respect for each other; I mean, I can\u2019t imagine my close friend dating the same woman I have dated because once you love a person, the feelings will always be there, and most of the time, they don\u2019t go away even after break up.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve been in a serious relationship (and been through a bad break-up), you understand how break-ups happen, and sometimes you don\u2019t even wanna leave your lover, but because your partner wants it, you kinda give in\u2026Now, imagine waking up one day to learn that your best friend is now seeing (dating) the same person.\u00a0 It can hurt one\u2019s self-esteem; it\u2019s like blatantly telling you your best friend is a better person than you are. I definitely can\u2019t accept that, if you\u2019re my best friend, you gotta have my back and respect me enough to stay away from everyone called \u2018my Ex\u2019.<\/p>\n
Again, this person you wanna date is the same person that has been with your friend for months (if not years), and it didn\u2019t work out between them both, now you wanna get entangled with him\/her? No way! If it couldn\u2019t work out between this person and your friend, what makes you think it will be any different with you in the frame? And don\u2019t tell me about love because we can control our feelings and emotions.<\/p>\n
For me, friends can share everything; from clothes to cars and gadgets, but when it comes to \u2018Exes\u2019, it\u2019s a no-go!<\/p>\n
Click below to read Shawn’s very different opinion<\/b><\/p>\n
SHAWN’S VIEW<\/b><\/p>\n
Inasmuch as dating your best friend’s ex is seen as unruly by many I still have my reservations about the matter. Dating your best friend’s ex is as complicated as mathematics and has so many complications on its own but in my own opinion it’s still a personal decision which still balls down to both parties that want to have a relationship together.<\/p>\n
First, your best friend’s ex wasn’t his wife; there is no legal union binding his friend and his ex-girlfriend; they weren’t married and that is the simple truth. If marriage is the case then it’s another scene entirely but since it’s just dating then your best friend has no right to the lady, they just had something which didn’t work out for them.<\/p>\n
Secondly, love can take you anywhere and if it leads you to your best friend’s ex would you then run away from it? You guys may later fall in love and it might even be true love at that but would you then lie to yourself because of your friend? Would you deceive yourself and then hold your feelings just to please your friend? Is pleasing your friend at the expense of love the best bet for you? There are so many questions you should ask yourself before holding your heart. If she’s the one for you, then don’t lose her.<\/p>\n
Breaking up with someone shows that they are both ready to let go and they decided it is best for them because they are incompatible. It would be immature to still be jealous of her when you both decided to let go of each other.<\/p>\n
Placing restrictions on your ex is just like a childish guy code to me; you guys broke up because you weren’t compatible and putting a stop sign on your ex shows nothing but greed, if it’s over then it’s over. Like people say, let bygones be bygones.<\/p>\n
Friends are friends and should remain friends and shouldn’t let petty things stand in their way. A guy should be man enough to tell his friend about his true feelings and his friend should be understanding as well. I’m not against dating your best friend’s ex in any way but I’m against dating her without telling your friend.<\/p>\n
If you truly fall in love with your best friend’s ex ,then follow your heart but if it isn’t love then don’t.<\/p>\n
That’s our take on the matter but can you really date your friend’s ex?<\/p>\n
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