{"id":34347,"date":"2017-12-23T08:33:29","date_gmt":"2017-12-23T07:33:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=34347"},"modified":"2017-12-23T08:33:29","modified_gmt":"2017-12-23T07:33:29","slug":"why-women-are-single-10-women-explain-from-their-perspective","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/why-women-are-single-10-women-explain-from-their-perspective\/","title":{"rendered":"WHY WOMEN ARE SINGLE : 10 WOMEN EXPLAIN FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE"},"content":{"rendered":"

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There are a lot of reasons some women choose to be single, ranging from personal to circumstances- motivated. A recent poll got eleven women to open about some of these reasons, and their answers will amaze you.<\/p>\n

Continue reading to see the interesting reasons most women share for being single.<\/p>\n

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\u2018I LOVE BEING A NOMAD\u2019 – Isabella, 33<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

For 33 years old Isabella, it’s all about ‘freedom’. She said: \u201cAt the moment, being single is a choice I have made, I am a digital nomad and change cities every few months as my company is remote as well. I love to be in new places and meet new people. I consider new opportunities and discovery to be more important than a relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u2018I HAVE A LIST OF NON-NEGOTIABLES\u2019 – Patti, 42<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

The third woman on the list simply wants to have things happen her own way.<\/p>\n

\u201cI have had two long-term relationships; the first I left because the sex was terrible, and the second ended because my fianc\u00e9 had a mental illness that he wasn\u2019t managing. I obviously don\u2019t want to settle for just anyone; I want someone to complement me vs \u201ccomplete\u201d me. I have a list of things I am looking for and a smaller list of non-negotiables.<\/p>\n

\u201cList of non-negotiables:<\/p>\n

Can have fun without drugs or alcohol\u2014I\u2019ve dated guys who drink too much and I come from a history of alcoholics. He must be taller than me (I\u2019m 5\u20199\u2033 and athletic), I always feel so masculine if a guy is shorter than me (I\u2019ve made the exception if the guy is really, really cute!). Healthy body weight and lifestyle. I have my own fitness and nutrition company\u2014this is a must. Must be sexually compatible with me\u2014one of my long-term guys could only last about three minutes. Be a good communicator\u2014this is such a high priority with me; my parents were terrible communicators and ended up getting divorced when I was in my mid-twenties. [Be] empathetic. I am very empathic and lean towards the more emotional side. I need someone who can be sensitive to my feelings in certain situations.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u2018I\u2019VE LEARNED FROM PAST MISTAKES\u2019 – Colleen, 54<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Colleen has simply just given up on dating as a result of past experiences. She says: \u201cI will never, ever settle in a relationship because I have learned from my mistakes. I think it\u2019s common to blame the other person for what happened in our relationships. In truth, we attract ourselves to either the right or wrong relationships primarily based on what we witnessed growing up. I never wanted to be the nag. The woman who got in the way of work or fun, but I ended up being the other extreme. I let too much go and eventually, there was a great imbalance in my relationship. I will have boundaries in my next relationship and, most importantly, I will not accept and make excuses for bad behavior.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u2018I\u2019D RATHER BE ALONE\u2019 – Claire, 27<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Like Colleen, Claire has had to learn from the failures of past relationships too, and now, she’s done.<\/p>\n

\u201cHonestly, I\u2019d rather be alone and be with someone who makes me feel alone. I\u2019ve dated so many idiots and I\u2019m over it. I\u2019m not bitter, I\u2019m simply not willing to compromise my value for another person. Relationships take work, and unless you\u2019re going to give me 100 percent when I give you 100 percent, I\u2019m not interested. Boy, bye!\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u2018I LOVE MYSELF TOO MUCH\u2019 – Brenda, 67<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cSettle? No way. I love my own company too much. It\u2019s just never worth hurting another person. Or risking my own mental health to \u2018settle\u2019\u2026by the way, I don\u2019t care if he looks like a bowling ball. It\u2019s about more than this. [He\u2019d need to be a] great conversationalist, open to discussing\/arguing different opinions on all fronts, honest, ethical, and with integrity.\u201d Obviously, Brenda isn’t your regular woman. She can only feel for herself.<\/p>\n

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\u2018I PREFER BEING SINGLE\u2019 – Jess, 28<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

This 28-year-old fancies the single life for now, but there may be hope for tomorrow. She Says: \u201cOnce I decided that I was the most important person in my life, and I had to do right by me, I stopped dating assholes. In my last relationship, my partner spent four months courting me. He had to prove himself to me before I was willing to date him. As it turned out, I prefer being single. I\u2019m sure I\u2019ll find someone amazing one day, but I\u2019m enough to make me happy. If I find a person who adds to my happiness, great. If not, I\u2019m fine with that too.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u2018IT\u2019S A WASTE OF TIME\u2019 – Vanessa, 33<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

33-year-old Vanessa just doesn’t think dating is worth it.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve never been married and for the first time in my life I have no interest in being in a relationship. I know I would never settle in a relationship because I have before, I know what it feels like, and it\u2019s a waste of precious time.<\/p>\n

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\u201cIt took me a few years of therapy and difficult self work to both find my voice and understand what I truly need and want in a partner. (Also, that work is and should be ongoing.) I think people settle because they succumb to social pressures; \u2018I\u2019m getting older and should be in a relationship,\u2019 the myth that \u2018I may never find someone better so I should just take what I have now.\u2019 People aren\u2019t willing to take risks and worst of all, most humans are just scared of being alone and don\u2019t invest in getting to know themselves.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u2018I\u2019VE BEEN THERE, DONE THAT\u2019 – Rihan, 47<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI was married for almost 20 years before my divorce of now just over three years [ago]. Since my divorce, I started a successful recruiting business and have been [with] a man who not only loves me, and whom I love, but he encourages me to grow in all aspects of my life. I\u2019ve competed in figure competitions, ran marathons, learned how to swim and more. In addition, I am having the best s*x of my life! Yes, women CAN have it all if we don\u2019t settle.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u2018I WANT MIND-BOGGLING LOVE-MAKING\u2019 – Elaine, 57<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, just read for yourself…<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve kissed enough frogs to not waste my time with smell good, look good, sweet talking, sexy dudes, who need a subservient quiet mate to support their desires. Maturity, mutual adoration, experience, deep self-confidence, independence, trust, true friendship, teamwork, spirituality, and wisdom create s*x-appeal and mind-boggling love-making, or it\u2019s not gonna work for me.<\/p>\n

\u201cPeople settle and accept less when they are lonely (indicator of unfocused energy) and haven\u2019t taken the time to see if the person is capable of a deep, loving relationship based on higher vibrations\/qualities. The key is getting the lesson from past mistakes and continuous advancement to the next level of self-love.\u201d<\/p>\n

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\u2018MY CAREER COMES FIRST\u2019 – Lisa, 30<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

This 30-year-old is all about her career.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m single because, I valued acquiring my skill set through education over being in a relationship.<\/p>\n

\u201cHowever, now I work as a private investigator and polygraph examiner, so seeing the increasing amount of people coming to take polygraph tests to prove to their significant others that they aren\u2019t cheating doesn\u2019t exactly make me want to date or commit.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve seen so many people settle and I refuse to be one of them. I want someone who understands that my career does come first and that it does come with hesitations and may make me more fearful about commitment.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Some of those reasons may seem funny and trivial, but they’re genuine, and obviously reflect how these women feel about dating. It’s also sad that a lot of women have had to give up on dating because they suffered in relationships with men. But then again, it’s life, we learn from sad experiences, and move on. Love is a beautiful thing; we must accept this reality for a better relationship with people around us.<\/p>\n

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