{"id":23967,"date":"2016-02-21T17:02:24","date_gmt":"2016-02-21T16:02:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=23967"},"modified":"2016-11-06T12:24:10","modified_gmt":"2016-11-06T11:24:10","slug":"if-you-cheat-and-dont-get-caught-should-you-tell-your-partner-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/if-you-cheat-and-dont-get-caught-should-you-tell-your-partner-2\/","title":{"rendered":"IF YOU CHEAT AND DON’T GET CAUGHT, SHOULD YOU TELL YOUR PARTNER?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Hello everyone and welcome to another edition of our wonderful Elcrema Sunday Love Special.<\/p>\n

Today’s topic focuses on cheating and repentance. If you cheat on your partner and you feel guilty about it and feel the need to repent of it, should you tell your partner or carry on like nothing happened?<\/p>\n

Drama and Shawn would tell us what they feel about this.<\/p>\n

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Drama<\/b><\/p>\n

Well, obviously, if you cheat on your partner and don’t get caught, and you’re contemplating telling on yourself, it is because you feel a lot of remorse about it, so it is a good thing to do because when you tell them yourself, their anger wouldn’t be as bad as it would if they found out themselves. Yes, they would get mad that you cheated on them even once, but when they realise that you told on yourself, they would also understand that you respect them a lot and that what happened was only a mistake.<\/p>\n

Telling them yourself also underlines your gentlemanly (true lady-like) nature, because there are not that many people who would be willing to take a decision like that. It may seem hard at first, but it is definitely the right thing to do because you don’t know what might happen in future \u2013 the person you cheated with might even try to get back at you by exposing you to your partner, and of course, by then, the outcome would be a lot more different.<\/p>\n

So my position is, if you mistakenly cheat, doesn’t matter if you don’t get caught, go to your partner and explain everything, and after you’re forgiven, stay faithful because it’s downright phoney for anyone to confess their sins and continue to live in sin — some do it, but it’s inappropriate and disrespectful.<\/p>\n

Click below to read Shawn’s opinion<\/b><\/p>\n

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Shawn <\/b><\/p>\n

No one appreciates being cheated on; no one enters a relationship or marriage to get cheated upon. But we can’t deny that these things happen.<\/p>\n

Cheating on your partner goes against everything a relationship stands for, irrespective of whether you got caught or not. To some people, as far as they don’t get caught then it’s okay, but it never is okay. Cheating is an act of selfishness and a betrayal of trust.<\/p>\n

Back to the subject of telling your partner or keeping it a secret. I believe you should tell your partner if you’ve truly repented of your cheating ways and you are sorry for your act. True repentance comes with confession and apologies — anything other than this is half-baked.<\/p>\n

You might say that you could lose your partner if you reveal your cheating ways, but there are two ways to look at this. First, what if your partner finds out later on? Your partner would definitely be pissed and might never forgive you. Secondly, you’ve already broken your vows to stay true to your partner, so it all depends on your partner to forgive you or not; it shouldn’t be you forgiving yourself by keeping secret of things you shouldn’t have done in the first place.<\/p>\n

I know many wouldn’t agree with my view of revealing your secret sin to your partner, but if you truly have repented of it then your partner has to know, and it’s up to your partner to forgive you or not. Whether your partner knows of your act or not, cheating is a betrayal of trust.<\/p>\n

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That’s our take on today’s edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special; would you tell your partner?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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