{"id":23079,"date":"2016-01-24T16:45:57","date_gmt":"2016-01-24T15:45:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=23079"},"modified":"2016-01-24T16:45:57","modified_gmt":"2016-01-24T15:45:57","slug":"can-you-date-or-marry-an-extremely-busy-person-if-yes-how-would-you-cope","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/can-you-date-or-marry-an-extremely-busy-person-if-yes-how-would-you-cope\/","title":{"rendered":"CAN YOU DATE OR MARRY AN EXTREMELY BUSY PERSON? IF YES, HOW WOULD YOU COPE?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Hello our dear readers and fans, welcome to another lovely edition of our Sunday Love Special (SLS).<\/p>\n

Being with a partner who’s extremely busy is a huge possibility; there are so many people out there who are career focused and have little time for any other thing outside their careers. Can you date or marry such a partner?<\/p>\n

Read what Drama and Shawn has to say about such a scenario.<\/p>\n

Drama <\/b><\/p>\n

Would I date an extremely busy person? Yes. Would I marry such a person? Yes. There is no dating or marriage rule book anywhere, where it’s stipulated that you cannot marry certain kind of people, you can, as long as you feel drawn to them.<\/p>\n

The thing about relationship is that it’s always about two people, so there is no way you are going to get things the way you want them all the time. All you can do is learn to compromise and make sacrifice if it means preserving that relationship or marriage.<\/p>\n

If I find myself feeling drawn to a woman who is always busy because of the nature of work or career she has chosen, I wouldn’t back away from an opportunity to be with (marry) her because I believe we can make things work out just fine for us both down the line. Like I said, it’s about understanding and sacrifice. As much as I have emotional needs and her job may get in the way of them sometimes, I understand that she loves her job, and she has to work to earn a living. She has her own needs too, and one of them is to do her job. So it would only be very selfish of me to ask her to quit or quarrel with her over the issue. All I can do is make sure we make the most of the (little) time (after work hours, holidays, and occasional breaks from work) we get to spend together because of course, she won’t be busy always. And if we’re married, we could always arrange for a way to take care of the kids when they come. We can hire a nanny or register them at a day care. And if my job gives me more time than her, I could always help with the chores and the kids. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, it is my wife, children and family we’re talking about. So, it basically boils down to understanding and the readiness to make sacrifices.<\/p>\n

It is laughable and morally wrong to refuse to marry a person you love simply because their job doesn’t permit them to spend a lot of time with you, you’d only be punishing yourself in doing so. I know a woman who has to travel all the time because of the nature of her job, but she’s still married with 3 kids and has a supportive husband. It is very possible to have a life like that too if you can be understanding and see things from the other person’s perspective sometimes.<\/p>\n

Click below to read Shawn\u2019s opinion \u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

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Shawn <\/b><\/p>\n

A question like this is best answered by the individual in question. On a personal basis, I would rather be with a partner who’s there for me and can create time for me, and when it comes to marriage, which is a much bigger and deeper union, then my partner ought to have enough time for me, just as I should create enough time for my partner.<\/p>\n

However, we can’t deny how work situations can be and how demanding pursuing a career can be \u2014 and we also can’t deny that work, finance, money, career, goals and dreams are highly important.<\/p>\n

Not everyone has a 9 – 5 job; some work from 9 – 9 and some even work at odd hours, while many have businesses or jobs that keep them away for so long; so there is a huge possibility that you could end up with a partner with a tight schedule.<\/p>\n

Attention and communication are two important things everyone deserves in a relationship. While it’s so easy to want a partner who can be much freer and spend lots of time with you, it doesn’t guarantee that you would find happiness with them and that they would give you the attention you truly deserve. Many people have partners who don’t have demanding jobs and they have quite enough time, but they still don’t spend their time with their partners, neither do they give them the attention they crave. So, it’s not about who’s busy and who’s less busy when choosing a partner; it’s more about who’s there for you, who loves you, who can give you the attention you crave and who can stay true and committed to you.<\/p>\n

The fact that a person is less busy doesn’t guarantee anything; if a partner is extremely busy but doesn’t put his \/ her job or career above you and still shows that you are what matters most and gives you his or her every attention then that’s what matters.<\/p>\n

So, yes, I can date or marry an extremely busy partner who’s career driven but doesn’t value her career above me.<\/p>\n

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Would you be with such a busy partner?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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