{"id":20235,"date":"2015-11-01T17:57:23","date_gmt":"2015-11-01T16:57:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=20235"},"modified":"2015-11-01T17:57:23","modified_gmt":"2015-11-01T16:57:23","slug":"is-it-right-for-married-people-to-have-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-as-a-best-friend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/is-it-right-for-married-people-to-have-a-member-of-the-opposite-sex-as-a-best-friend\/","title":{"rendered":"IS IT RIGHT FOR MARRIED PEOPLE TO HAVE A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX AS A BEST FRIEND?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Hello everyone and welcome to another edition of your favourite El Crema Sunday Love Special, in what promises to be another very interesting topic.<\/p>\n

While growing up, it seems okay to have a member of the opposite sex as a best friend and no one would see anything wrong in it. But can the same thing be said when marriage enters the picture?<\/p>\n

This promises to be an interesting and even complicating topic; let’s read on to know Drama and Shawn’s views on the matter.<\/p>\n

Drama<\/b><\/p>\n

It is not in any way right for that to even happen in a dating situation, talk more of in marriage, and my reason is simple — a best friend is the closest friend anyone could have; someone you share everything with, and whom you care very much about. So if you’re going to have such a person in your life, it has to be your spouse; not some man or woman. Your spouse should be the only person you tell and share everything with, he\/she should be the only one who totally gets you. The one you can share you deepest secrets, pain and joy with. Having it any other way is bound to trigger some sort of jealousy from your spouse, and that is very unhealthy for any marriage, because jealousy breeds distrust. You do not want to put your marriage in such a situation.<\/p>\n

Apart from jealousy and insecurity (distrust) it can stir in your partner, I think you’d be making yourself vulnerable to cheating sexually as well, by allowing yourself be very close to a person of the opposite sex. We humans are very emotional people, and it’s easy for us to fall for anyone who can give us some attention and care. Having a bestie of the opposite sex can lead one into having all the wrong thoughts, which if isn’t handled maturely, can result in a sexual mishap. So as harmless as it may appear for a married person to keep a best friend of the opposite sex, it can lead to all sorts of wrongs, which can ruin a marriage or relationship, and in my opinion, it is not worth the risk.<\/p>\n

Click below to read Shawn’s very different opinion<\/b><\/p>\n

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Shawn <\/b><\/p>\n

We all have to agree that marriage is a different ball game from relationships; marriage is a much more serious and committed affair. With this knowledge, this makes having a best friend in a member of the opposite sex quite a dicey one.<\/p>\n

It’s not really wrong to have someone in the opposite sex as a best friend; after all, your best friend is your most preferred friend that totally understands you and have been there for you probably even before your partner came along the picture — but this doesn’t make it an entirely comfortable situation.<\/p>\n

You might be honest in your relationship with that your best friend that’s a member of the opposite the sex, but it all boils down to how it affects your marriage.<\/p>\n

There are three major things to consider in this situation that would determine how simple or difficult this situation would be.<\/p>\n

First, has the relationship always been platonic? This is a major reason why people are scared when their spouse’s best friend is a member of the opposite sex. Some best friends in this situation have had moments that crossed boundaries of just being purely platonic. In this situation, it would definitely not be easy for the partner.<\/p>\n

Secondly, does your best friend take the place of your partner? If you have a best friend in the opposite sex and that person takes the place of your partner in many things then it could be termed wrong as it would definitely affect your marriage. There ought to be set boundaries in this situation.<\/p>\n

Finally, your partner ought to feel comfortable with the situation and trust that the relationship is right. When your partner distrusts your relationship with your best friend or is uneasy with it then this could pose a problem.<\/p>\n

These three factors should be highly scrutinized before terming having a best friend that’s a member of the opposite sex right or wrong. But, in general, it’s not wrong to have a best friend in the opposite sex even when married; it’s your approach or attitude that matters most.<\/p>\n

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Do you think it’s okay to have a best friend in the opposite sex? And would you find it comfortable if you were the other partner?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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