{"id":15235,"date":"2015-06-14T14:17:06","date_gmt":"2015-06-14T13:17:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=15235"},"modified":"2015-06-14T14:17:06","modified_gmt":"2015-06-14T13:17:06","slug":"should-the-man-really-love-the-woman-more-for-a-relationship-to-be-successful","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/should-the-man-really-love-the-woman-more-for-a-relationship-to-be-successful\/","title":{"rendered":"SHOULD THE MAN REALLY LOVE THE WOMAN MORE FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO BE SUCCESSFUL?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Lots of women really have this belief that a relationship would only be very successful when the man loves the woman more than the woman loves the man. They believe it makes him serious in the relationship and makes him value the relationship even.<\/p>\n

Do you think it’s true?<\/p>\n

Welcome to another edition of the Elcrema Sunday Love Special; today’s topic promises to be even more interesting as we would have three different people writing their opinion from three different perspective; but do you think a relationship is more successful when the man loves more than the woman?<\/p>\n

Read on to see what Shawn, Viv and Drama feel about this issue.<\/p>\n

Shawn <\/b><\/p>\n

Do I believe that the relationship is more successful when the man is more in love than the woman? Capital NO! When a man is more in love than the woman in a relationship or marriage, it would translate to a man bearing the excesses for a relationship to succeed, it would mean a woman putting up all manner of nonchalant attitude and taking things for granted just because the man is deeply in love; in essence, when a man is more in love than the woman in a relationship, it simply means the man understands the concept of a relationship more, it means he deserves a partner that would love him just as much as he loves her. But it also doesn\u2019t mean that the woman should as well love the more.<\/p>\n

For a relationship to be successful it entails two people who are in love with each other and are ready to give a hundred percent for the relationship to succeed; not 70 percent, not 80, not even 99 percent, but 100 percent…and it ought to come from both partners.<\/p>\n

No partner is right when they withhold or withdraw their love, most people do this in a bid not to get hurt, but this in itself defeats what a relationship stands for; both partners ought to give their all, and then only would the relationship be successful… it would be unfair for the weight of a relationship to fall on one partner.<\/p>\n

Click below to read Viv\u2019s opinion<\/b><\/p>\n

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Viv <\/b><\/p>\n

While I won’t say it isn’t totally right for women to have this belief that the man should love more, I still won’t chastise women for having such beliefs. A lot of the times, women give more than their all just to make the relationship work, but at the end other it all they get cheated on, the men take their loyalty for granted and some even get abused physically. Those are the major reasons why a lot of women carved that belief that only when the man loves her more than she does, only then can a man truly appreciate her love.<\/p>\n

You won’t blame the women for trying to be safe and avoid getting hurt just because they’re in love. Men are only trustworthy when they give a hundred percent in a relationship; unfaithfulness is a common feat when a man doesn’t give his total commitment, whereas a woman who gives even 70 percent of her emotions in a relationship can still stay faithful.<\/p>\n

The notion that the relationship is better off when the man has more love than the women is a notion women believe just so they don’t get hurt \u2014 it’s simply a protective measure and you won’t blame them.<\/p>\n

Drama <\/b><\/p>\n

While love is a necessary ingredient for any relationship to be successful, I do not believe it is the ultimate. The most enduring relationships were (are) not built on love alone, rather, they’re built on mental maturity. The ability to know, and understand that your partner isn’t perfect, and that they’ll make mistakes and get on your last nerve sometimes but that doesn’t affect the way you both feel about each other. Two people can extremely be in love, but without the required mental maturity, they’ll not last one year because challenges will arise, and they wouldn’t know how to handle them unless they’re mentally prepared for the relationship; and by being mentally prepared, I mean being understanding and tolerant especially.<\/p>\n

So, I don’t think a relationship can be preserved just by either party (the man or woman) having more love than the other, although I’ll have to admit that sometimes one party in the relationship has to show more maturity than the other for the relationship to last because there’s no way both can be perfect. One person has to be willing to make more sacrifices and compromise — which can be any party in the relationship, not necessarily the man. I’ve seen relationships and marriages endure because the woman is more understanding and tolerant, not the man— so it doesn’t have to be the man. What is important is that someone in the relationship must be willing to compromise for that relationship or marriage to last long. Love isn’t always adequate to sustain it.<\/p>\n

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That’s our take on today’s edition of our fortnightly Elcrema Sunday Love Special. Expect yet another thrilling edition a fortnight away.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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