{"id":14641,"date":"2015-04-19T16:51:17","date_gmt":"2015-04-19T15:51:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=14641"},"modified":"2015-04-19T16:51:17","modified_gmt":"2015-04-19T15:51:17","slug":"after-suffering-a-terrible-heartbreak-how-long-should-one-take-before-entering-another-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/after-suffering-a-terrible-heartbreak-how-long-should-one-take-before-entering-another-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"AFTER SUFFERING A TERRIBLE HEARTBREAK, HOW LONG SHOULD ONE TAKE BEFORE ENTERING ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Being jilted is a normal occurrence as far as relationships are concerned. People get hurt all the time; most likely when they catch their much loved partner cheating or when their partner leaves them for another person or ends the relationship abruptly.<\/p>\n

Not everyone knows how to live after heartbreak, and a lot of people prefer not to love again after being hurt.<\/p>\n

Should a heart-breaking experience mean you forsake love and relationship totally? How long should one take before entering another relationship?<\/p>\n

Drama and Shawn would discuss this in today’s Elcrema Sunday Love Special.<\/p>\n

Drama <\/b><\/p>\n

My answer to this question is simple…. as long as it takes! As long as it takes to figure out what you really want from a partner and a relationship because honestly speaking, inadequate evaluation and assessment is the only possible reason why one may end up being heartbroken in a relationship that once seemed promising.<\/p>\n

When you do not take your time to evaluate and study the (person) people asking you out; in terms of their attitude and disposition to life in general, you may fall into the wrong hands, and of course, end up disappointed. So, it is absolutely expedient that people take their time before jumping into a relationship, whether or not they’ve been heartbroken. It is a matter of necessity. Take Marriage for example, no normal person jumps into it without first of all assessing their options and undergoing courtship. You must court before you marry, to learn your partner and decide for yourself if this person is who you actually want to spend the rest of your life with. The same should be applied to dating; assess your options, and scrutinize their personalities thoroughly before settling for anyone. Don\u2019t just jump into any available arm because of loneliness or pressure from family and friends; take your time, take things at your own pace, think about what it is you really want in a man and relationship, assess the men in your life to see if they fit the profile. If they do, fine, otherwise, wait until the person who does comes along. There is no point in rushing into regrets. Take your time, and evaluate your choices before taking that leap.<\/p>\n

This way, I think lesser hearts will be broken.<\/p>\n

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Shawn <\/b><\/p>\n

Heartbreak occurs when you trust someone with your heart, and trust that the person is the right one for you only for the person to take advantage of your trust.<\/p>\n

It’s really a bitter experience but it still doesn’t change the fact that being in love with someone who loves you genuinely is a beautiful thing. Sometimes we suffer heartbreaks as a result of our own negligence; you shouldn’t expect any better when you give your heart to someone who isn’t worth it; time and time again such people would make you unhappy at the end.<\/p>\n

But in all, it still doesn’t mean you should give up on love. In the words of Maya Angelou, “have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time”.<\/p>\n

Two basic things to always consider before entering another relationship after a setback are: whether you have moved on, and whether you have met someone who would truly be there for you. The two things are essential and one can’t go without another.<\/p>\n

First, if you haven’t moved on, if your heart hasn’t healed then there is absolutely no way you can have an enjoyable relationship even if you are with the right person. The relationship might fail because you won’t trust your partner and you won’t love that person enough, which are two prerequisites for a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

Secondly, you have to be sure that the person you are going into the relationship with loves you; if that person is just there for a stroll in the park then you would end up being heartbroken again.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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