{"id":14495,"date":"2015-04-05T16:55:00","date_gmt":"2015-04-05T15:55:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=14495"},"modified":"2015-04-05T23:49:36","modified_gmt":"2015-04-05T22:49:36","slug":"should-you-really-enter-a-relationshipmarriage-when-you-dont-really-love-the-person","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/should-you-really-enter-a-relationshipmarriage-when-you-dont-really-love-the-person\/","title":{"rendered":"SHOULD YOU ENTER A RELATIONSHIP\/MARRIAGE WHEN YOU DON\u2019T REALLY LOVE THE PERSON?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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There is this old school of thought that you can get married to someone even when you don\u2019t really love that person; the belief is that love grows and isn\u2019t something that comes up once\u2026so after a while, you would end up loving that person.<\/p>\n

Do you believe in that school of thought? Do you think it\u2019s healthy to enter that relationship or marriage when your feelings aren\u2019t totally placed? Do you believe the love would eventually grow?<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the topic for discussion on this Sunday\u2019s edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special.<\/p>\n

Shawn and Drama and would air their views below:<\/p>\n

Shawn <\/b><\/p>\n

Love, relationships and marriage have this somewhat complicated and yet simple triangular formation; when you feel two plus two would give you four, it wouldn\u2019t\u2026and when you feel it wouldn\u2019t, that is when it would.<\/p>\n

People have entered such relationships and marriages where they didn\u2019t love their partner at first, but they were loved totally by that person and at the end of the day, they fell in love due to the love the other person showed. Likewise, people have entered relationships and marriages with both partner loving each other, but it ended in hate and divorce.<\/p>\n

It is true that someone might love you hundred percent, but you wouldn\u2019t feel same about that person. It\u2019s also true that you can get to love that person later on, even though that\u2019s only a probability. As regards marriage though, it\u2019s quite risky to go into it when you aren\u2019t sure of how you feel, even though your partner loves you totally. Marriage is by far a bigger and more sacred institution; by all means you have to be sure and be ready for what you are going into; anything other than that could be dangerous.<\/p>\n

Whilst some people who have experienced success in marrying someone they didn\u2019t love at first, a lot have also experienced regrets. Some later meet someone who they deem is truly the right person for them, some cheat on their partner, some don\u2019t give their all…and the list goes on.<\/p>\n

When you are uncertain about a person, you can date and court that person for a while before you make your final judgement; but if you rush into marriage, you might definitely rush out it too.<\/p>\n

Click below to read Drama\u2019s opinion<\/b><\/p>\n

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Drama <\/b><\/p>\n

Should we? Well, I think this question is an individualistic one, so the answer should come that way. People differ, and so do their choices and needs. What one person wants may not be what the other wants. We go into relationships and marriage for different reasons which are guided by our needs.<\/p>\n

Some go into a relationship because they’re lonely, so they need companionship, others do it for society (you know, because everyone is doing it, so they want to fit in), some do it for recreation; they need a woman just because they need children, or sexual satisfaction… etc.<\/p>\n

So relationships and marriage aren’t meant only for people in love; well, maybe marriage, because it’s for the longer- term, but even then, there are people who get married for reasons other than love. So I think our reasons for getting into these things are pretty much dependent on us as individuals and what we want out of a relationship\/marriage. Anyone can go into a relationship or marriage if they want something other than love and commitment in return. My 2 cents!<\/p>\n

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That\u2019s our opinion on this edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special; what is your opinion? Do you side Drama or Shawn? Or do you have a totally different opinion?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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